Dreams are frustrating

[Welpe]

It happened again last night. I had a dream about my ex-girlfriend and I dating again.

We went out in high school, almost 7 years ago. We dated for about 9 months and then broke up. I was single for a while and then I got involved in a realtionship with a girl. We've been together for almost 6 years now. Oh yeah, did I mention the girl I'm now dating was one of my ex's friends?

Fast forward a few years, my ex and I hated each other until my senior year of high school. That year we had a class together and we were friends again (and that's it). After we graduated I haven't seen her since and only have talked to her a couple of times. The last time I talked to her was sometime last year.

So tell me, why do I keep having dreams about this woman? Usually dreams about us being romantically involved? I'd say I average a dream like this every couple of months. I dwell on it for a day and then I forget all about it. I had another dream last night but the weird part is I haven't even thought about her lately.

One obvious answer is that some part of me wants to be together with her again but that doesn't make sense. I woke up and said "Why the heck would I want to go through THAT again?"

This isn't the worst though.. I had a dream last year that we were married. It doesn't make a lick of sense to me.

OK you O.Com amateur psychologists, have at it!

[Welpe]

I'm surprised you chatter boxes are speechless about this. Too deep?

[haus409]

Maybe it was just a sign that you miss the life you had before you were with the girl you are with now.

Maybe you miss the other possibilities that you missed by getting into a serious/long term relationship.

Or...maybe "THAT" was not as bad as you once thought, and you DO want her back.

Or, if "THAT" was as bad as you thought, maybe you enjoy misery, or believe subconsciously that you deserve it...

[Cerberusdog]

Maybe...

Jeez. Perhaps you just need to let your mind have some fun. Couldn't hurt (unless you happen to say the wrong name at an inappropriate time); otherwise the more you try not to think about it, the more it is likely to take root in your subconscious and drrive you nuts. Besides; you are lucky; if I even dream about another female, my wife seems to know about it immediately....

[Chiller]

Because somewhere inside you inner self you miss banging her

[toby101]

This is not a dream, THIS IS A NIGHTMARE!!!!!!!!!!!!

[ZmanCarlvr]

It probably doesn't mean anything.... Maybe something inside you made ya think about her for a quick second (just thinking w/ no agenda)... also considering you're dating one of her friends or old friends, that automatically kind of links her to your relationship.

I've learned that dreams don't mean $hit. haha. No matter what anybody says or tries to interpret the dreams, they don't mean anything!

Hope that helps...


-Z

[Welpe]

There are a few questions I would ask such as what was happening when these first started and what are your thoughts just after waking?

*lies back on big black chair*

I couldn't pin point when the dreams started, but if I had to guess, probably when I started college. As I said, they usually don't affect me in the long term.

I felt like my thoughts DURING the dream were...what the heck is this all about? That was pretty much the same thing when I woke up.

Chiller, yeah but this wasn't a sex dream.

Zman I think you're right all around.

[Welpe]

I want them to go away....

[ScrapinPT]

well if it makes you feel better I had/have the same problem. I cared for the girl .. dated for 2 years and she was a beotch .. like you said .. we talk every know and then and thats it. Shes engaged and Im happy with my current 4 yr girl. Ive have been told and also heard though it has nothing to do with the person. I heard it has to do with us being happy with the current person we are with. Obviously we broke up with the other girl and our happy know so it may be just a reasurance of how good things are now .. who knows haha

[cst.sb]

I want them to go away....

Welcome to the club..

I have three girlfriends that haunt my dreams!!! The hotest one, the lesbian, and prefect girl... I just need to find away to dream about they all at the same time!!!! What a good time that would be!!!

[Puget Sound]

I think you're all way off.

It's obvious by these dreams that Welpe wants to kill his father and have sex with his mother.

[ecpd170]

Because somewhere inside you inner self you miss banging her

Thats the first smart thing i seen CHILLER post congrats you tool

[ecpd170]

I think you're all way off.

It's obvious by these dreams that Welpe wants to kill his father and have sex with his mother.

lmfao thats it you are right man you are smart lol Good Luck with that Welpe

[Tinkertoys]

It happened again last night. I had a dream about my ex-girlfriend and I dating again.

We went out in high school, almost 7 years ago. We dated for about 9 months and then broke up. I was single for a while and then I got involved in a realtionship with a girl. We've been together for almost 6 years now. Oh yeah, did I mention the girl I'm now dating was one of my ex's friends?

Fast forward a few years, my ex and I hated each other until my senior year of high school. That year we had a class together and we were friends again (and that's it). After we graduated I haven't seen her since and only have talked to her a couple of times. The last time I talked to her was sometime last year.

So tell me, why do I keep having dreams about this woman? Usually dreams about us being romantically involved? I'd say I average a dream like this every couple of months. I dwell on it for a day and then I forget all about it. I had another dream last night but the weird part is I haven't even thought about her lately.

One obvious answer is that some part of me wants to be together with her again but that doesn't make sense. I woke up and said "Why the heck would I want to go through THAT again?"

This isn't the worst though.. I had a dream last year that we were married. It doesn't make a lick of sense to me.

OK you O.Com amateur psychologists, have at it!

Well, my mother is a professional psychologist...... So, she says that because of so,e traumatic or even minor bad experience in the relationship, you may feel as if you need to fix it or find some reconcile with her.

-tink