Girlfriend wants to pay for engagement ring, thoughts?

[SouthernTransfer]

So my girlfriend and I live together and already planning on marrying just a matter of time and money and job placement. She and I picked out a ring and I have already started making payments but she doesn't know.

Last night she asked about rings in a general question and I happened to say "x amount of money is a lot right now. We will be engaged eventually but the ring will be what I can afford."

She proceeded to tell me you know I can help with the ring or you can put it on my credit card and make payments when you can.

Maybe I have too much pride but I shot that idea down right away.

It us weird, odd, crazy? What do you think?

[swat_op506]

The first two thoughts as they came into my head, in order...

MARRY HER IMMEDIATELY.

...OR...

Perhaps it could be a test or devious trap of some sort that might be used by her against you later.

Married guys, chime in!

[SmallCityCop]

I'd offer to front the bill, which is my responsibility as the man.

I paid for my fiancee's engagement ring, and I'll be paying for the wedding ring,too..

But if she INSISTS after you offer, then by all means...

[tj05]

The first two thoughts as they came into my head, in order...

MARRY HER IMMEDIATELY.

...OR...

Perhaps it could be a test or devious trap of some sort that might be used by her against you later.

Married guys, chime in!

Same thing I was thinking

[Shush]

DON'T DO IT.

In 5 years, you'll be wondering exactly how it ended up that your balls where stored in her locked safe, and you will be able to pinpoint it back to this very moment.

It's going to happen eventually anyway, but no sense in helping it along....

[SouthernTransfer]

Yea the big question in my head was why? Did she think I couldn't handle paying for it? Did she think I wouldn't get something she liked? Her response was:

"I know you can afford it but just like rent and bills we split down the middle, I think if I want something that expensive I should have to sacrifice some money too."

I just don't know what to think, I couldn't see myself looking back and knowing she paid for an engagement ring I have her.

[AppState]

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Just saying

[Iowa #1603]

Woman's Lib..........................sure why not

[JasperST]

According to your account she said she would "help". That may mean two very different things to each of you. You already shot it down but money talks so it might have been a good test before you pulled the trigger.

[SouthernTransfer]

She left the offer on the table, she was talking a few thousand. 2000-3500

[Scott941]

What difference does it make who pays for it. The money will come out of the same pot in the long run.

[So Fla Cop]

What difference does it make who pays for it. The money will come out of the same pot in the long run.

Until she dumps him....get a pre-nup.

[Scott941]

Until she dumps him....get a pre-nup.

Prenuptial Agreement- An "I do" with an asterisk.

[Miller11x]

1. Use the money you had for the ring and buy a good pair of running shoes.
2. Put the shoes on.
3. Run.....run far far away.
4. Keep running.
5. ???
6. Profit

[Aerohead]

I'm a married guy.

Don't let her pay for it. ESPECIALLY on a credit card.

Keep doing what you're doing and tell her to chill the f**k out.