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    Two days ago I was approached by a man in his early 60s (I'm 21) while at the gym. He came up to me asking random questions, and then began making comments about my body. He looked me up and down and then mentioned a shirt I had on a few days ago. As I was leaving the gym, he followed me out to my vehicle. As I turned around, he was standing there and asked if I would walk to the end of the shopping center to some resturant. After refusing, he asked for my number.

    The gym is Planet Fitness. Would it do any good to file a complaint at the gym? Or should I wait until (and if) he approaches me again and get the cops involved? Or..am I just overreacting? It just freaked me out that he followed me to my car. Thanks for taking the time to read this

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    I would file a complaint with the gym.

    If necessary I would require them to escort you to your car after you work out.

    Actually, I would probably just find another gym
    Since some people need to be told by notes in crayon .......Don't PM me with without prior permission. If you can't discuss the situation in the open forum ----it must not be that important

    My new word for the day is FOCUS, when someone irritates you tell them to FOCUS

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    • #3
      I would thank him for the compliment and go on to tell him about my recent sex change.

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      • #4
        Tell him you're not a Viagra distributor.

        Tell someone (important) at the gym.
        I’ll die with blue in my veins.

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        • #5
          Originally posted by Decspi View Post
          Two days ago I was approached by a man in his early 60s (I'm 21) while at the gym. He came up to me asking random questions, and then began making comments about my body. He looked me up and down and then mentioned a shirt I had on a few days ago. As I was leaving the gym, he followed me out to my vehicle. As I turned around, he was standing there and asked if I would walk to the end of the shopping center to some resturant. After refusing, he asked for my number.

          The gym is Planet Fitness. Would it do any good to file a complaint at the gym? Or should I wait until (and if) he approaches me again and get the cops involved? Or..am I just overreacting? It just freaked me out that he followed me to my car. Thanks for taking the time to read this
          I assume the person was hitting on you/flirting. If you are not interested or uncomfortable – tell the person clearly that you are not interested or that their behavior makes you uncomfortable.
          If after doing so they persist – I would suggest reporting it to the management as they may have policies tied to customer conduct. As for the police getting involved- there is no crime being committed as you describe it so they would have no real case to do anything.
          Originally posted by SSD
          It has long been the tradition on this forum and as well as professionally not to second guess or Monday morning QB the officer's who were actually on-scene and had to make the decision. That being said, I don't think that your discussion will go very far on this board.
          Originally posted by Iowa #1603
          And now you are arguing about not arguing..................

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          • #6
            Sounds like he's just an older guy, probably newly single, and was asking for a date but has no game. Give him a shot, he might have some bucks.
            Government is not the solution to our problem; government is the problem. - Ronald Reagan

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            • #7
              Does he look wealthy?
              Originally posted by RSGSRT
              We've reached a point where natural selection doesn't have a chance in hell of keeping up with the procreation of imbeciles.
              Why is it acceptable for you to be an idiot, but not acceptable for me to point it out?

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              • #8
                Originally posted by Decspi View Post
                Two days ago I was approached by a man in his early 60s (I'm 21) while at the gym. He came up to me asking random questions, and then began making comments about my body. He looked me up and down and then mentioned a shirt I had on a few days ago. As I was leaving the gym, he followed me out to my vehicle. As I turned around, he was standing there and asked if I would walk to the end of the shopping center to some resturant. After refusing, he asked for my number.
                You haven't explicitly indicated your gender. You've expressly indicated your age in several posts. If it were me at your age (I'm male) I'd have said hey I'm a straight guy but thanks and no. If it were my little sister she'd have said something like well that's flattering but I have a boyfriend so no. Assuming you're female you can if not interested politely decline and by age 21 you should know how to do that and if you don't you should seek the advice of a gal whom you recognize to be savvy regarding such matters. If you're simply a young gal getting miffed about an oldie guy being attracted to you and he's not being a jag about it maybe don't take too much offense.

                The gym is Planet Fitness. Would it do any good to file a complaint at the gym? Or should I wait until (and if) he approaches me again and get the cops involved? Or..am I just overreacting? It just freaked me out that he followed me to my car. Thanks for taking the time to read this
                Anytime you encounter creepolean behavior you should report it appropriately.

                That could be as little as nicely telling the creepy guy you're not interested, or could escalate to telling the staff at the business the specific behaviors on his part that are creeping you out, or could escalate to calling the Police, which you should do immediately if you feel genuinely threatened.

                You should have pepper spray in your hand when you're walking to or from your car.

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                • #9
                  As long as you're "pitching" and not "catching", it should be all good. Keep it on the down low and remember that older guys usually have more disposable income so they usually buy some good gifts.

                  Good luck with your new admirer.
                  Getting shot hurts! Don't under estimate the power of live ammo. A .22LR can kill you! I personally feel that it's best to avoid being shot by any caliber. Your vest may stop the bullet, but you'll still get a nice bruise or other injury to remember the experience.

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                  • #10
                    You have left out a little detail there. Being in SVU I have a slightly different view than my colleagues here. Without more I would just say be cautious. If it continues you need to make the effort to let him know that his behavior is unacceptable. All too often people go from 0-90 without stopping anywhere in between. Everyone, male or female, should be aware of their surroundings. If he continues after you tell him to stop then make the complaint. You are not at the level of calling the cops yet.

                    Usually if you think there is something wrong, it is. Just be careful. More information results in more/better answers.
                    Stupid has no color or race, everyone can participate.

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by HI629 View Post
                      As long as you're "pitching" and not "catching", it should be all good.
                      I'm an outfielder myself ...
                      I’ll die with blue in my veins.

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                      • #12
                        wait until he is following you, turn real quick and get close to his face and scream as loud as you can "LOOK OLD MAN! I AM NOT GOING BACK TO PRISON! "

                        That should do it.

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                        • #13
                          He just very well be a “Conservator of the Piece” doing his job… oops wrong thread…

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                          • #14
                            Tell LAXcop to leave you alone, you don't swing that way..........Liberal that is.
                            Stupid has no color or race, everyone can participate.

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                            • #15
                              Perfect opportunity for a sugar daddy. Don't let it pass you by.

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