Convincing your wife to let you get an AR15

[David Hineline]

I love my wife to death and all, but we tend to disagree on what to spend money on. She'll get a latte every day, stop and buy the kids slurpees, snacks, etc. just to be nice. It can add up to $100/week or more pretty easily. If I want to spend that much at once on an item she deems unnecessary, the fight is on.

Women tend to prioritize money differently than men, that's just a fact. We pay the bills and then buy big toys. They pay the bills and then buy a million smaller, useless toys....

I think she spots your weakness, it's like training a puppy, positive/negative reinforcement. Buy the gun, is she complains then buy two more, complains again, buy 4. She will learn not to complain.

If she complains, and you fight and you let her win, then just like Pavlov's dog and the cookie, she got what she wanted.

You have to turn her complaining into something that does not result in what she wants.

Or you could keep going the way you have been, which is most likely going to happen.

[99 Fenix]

can you work any OT to support your habit?

[Stitch]

Very good. Now I understand what you intended.

The answer then is yes. We have the money saved right now to pay cash. Purchasing it would mean that we have x amount less saved for the rainy day fund or for paying off our car a little faster. Her side of the discussion comes through that direction... paying off the car faster.

Good input, thank you.

Dude, you are over-thinking it. Just tell her you really want it, and it will make you really happy, and she won't have to buy you anything for Christmas for five years. It's a present that can be extrapolated over time. If she normally spends $300 a year on you, it's actually a better deal

[Chazz]

1) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LrlUsaYlKPs

Shouldn't really have to explain much on this one.

2) You are never really going to lose money on it down the road. It is something that will always hold its value if you take care of it and invest in a good manufacturer. Heck, its a safer investment than the U.S. dollar!

[Driven]

By financial pros I mean have you looked at your monthly budget and found a way of saving to your target goal of one thousand dollars for said rifle? Do you have the money already?

Myself personally I never purchase any big ticket items until I have all the money to pay for it upfront and in cash. If this means I have to save and wait a few months then so be it. The same should be for your rifle. If you can find a way in your budget for you to save for or buy right away, your rifle then you should have every right to purchase the rifle.

That is how I would present it. If she still says no then I think you have a bigger problem.

.02

Very good. Now I understand what you intended.

The answer then is yes. We have the money saved right now to pay cash. Purchasing it would mean that we have x amount less saved for the rainy day fund or for paying off our car a little faster. Her side of the discussion comes through that direction... paying off the car faster.

Good input, thank you.

[Driven]

Because, he doesn't have one. Or at least not one worth anything, because he has nothing to back his up. He's on here looking for reasons to support his wild hair. She, at least from his post, HAS reasons to back up her argument. If you gotta come on an Internet site and ask random strangers for ideas because you don't have any, you maybe shouldn't be trying to do whatever you're trying to do.

First off jackwagon, you don't have a clue who I am or how long this decision has been in the making to call it a "wild hair". Nor are you omniscient where you know all the details of what reasons she has or what reasons I have. I didn't come on here to ask your moral or ethical assessment of my endeavor, I simply asked for suggested reasons for purchasing an AR... the background of which is convincing my wife.

What you don't know is that my wife told me to give her reasons for the purchase that may convince her to see it my way... she's open minded about it. I didn't feel the need to write a big dissertation about that because I didn't realize there would be those like you who would sit is judgement and character assessment. We make decisions together through discussion. I've come up with my reasons, she has hers... none of which I felt the need to post here because I figured I'd see what forum members suggested and compare the lists. Maybe there is something that someone else thought of that I didn't. I came to this forum for suggestions from people who have similar interests and many of whom I would guess have had similar discussions with their spouse.

Rather that trying to make a character assessment based on a simple request for input maybe you should just stick to the question... or don't bother with the judgmental input. Come on down out of your keyboard castle and join the rest of us simple finite peasants all wise one.

[HI629]

Does she realize that an AR-15 is a critical piece of equipment that could someday save your life?

[-Erik-]

As far as the financial pro's and con's, what would the financial pro's be? Can spending $1000 on a gun have a list of financial pro's? Because in reality, I'm going to add to it over time.

By financial pros I mean have you looked at your monthly budget and found a way of saving to your target goal of one thousand dollars for said rifle? Do you have the money already?

Myself personally I never purchase any big ticket items until I have all the money to pay for it upfront and in cash. If this means I have to save and wait a few months then so be it. The same should be for your rifle. If you can find a way in your budget for you to save for or buy right away, your rifle then you should have every right to purchase the rifle.

That is how I would present it. If she still says no then I think you have a bigger problem.

.02

[nuthead]

Why can't she respect his? Respect is a two way street. Just saying.

Because, he doesn't have one. Or at least not one worth anything, because he has nothing to back his up. He's on here looking for reasons to support his wild hair. She, at least from his post, HAS reasons to back up her argument. If you gotta come on an Internet site and ask random strangers for ideas because you don't have any, you maybe shouldn't be trying to do whatever you're trying to do.

[Driven]

Why can't she respect his? Respect is a two way street. Just saying.

I believe fish also made an excellent point. My boss has been divorced for a year now and despite paying child support he still has more money then he ever had when he was married because he doesn't have a wife nickel and dimeing him.

Yeah this will be an expensive item compared to most things. But my whole point is that if you have weighed the pros and cons financially (you did this right?) and the pros came out ahead then she should respect your decision as an adult who wouldn't put your family into financial jeopardy.

As far as weighing the pro's and con's, yes. I'm looking for more pro's from you all to add to the list.
As far as the financial pro's and con's, what would the financial pro's be? Can spending $1000 on a gun have a list of financial pro's? Because in reality, I'm going to add to it over time.

[-Erik-]

Then why not respect her opinion? Just saying.

Why can't she respect his? Respect is a two way street. Just saying.

I believe fish also made an excellent point. My boss has been divorced for a year now and despite paying child support he still has more money then he ever had when he was married because he doesn't have a wife nickel and dimeing him.

Yeah this will be an expensive item compared to most things. But my whole point is that if you have weighed the pros and cons financially (you did this right?) and the pros came out ahead then she should respect your decision as an adult who wouldn't put your family into financial jeopardy.

[Reiland]

From the main screen, the only part of the thread title I could see was, "Convincing your wife to let..."

Of course, my mind filled in the rest of that sentence several ways. None of which had anything to do with getting an AR15.

Might I suggest trying to convince her on something completely unrelated. By comparison, getting an AR15 might suddenly be an excellent idea in her book.

Yes, I'm a LEO wife. No, his gun purchases aren't a group decision. Neither are any of my purchases.

[fishAK]

I love my wife to death and all, but we tend to disagree on what to spend money on. She'll get a latte every day, stop and buy the kids slurpees, snacks, etc. just to be nice. It can add up to $100/week or more pretty easily. If I want to spend that much at once on an item she deems unnecessary, the fight is on.

Women tend to prioritize money differently than men, that's just a fact. We pay the bills and then buy big toys. They pay the bills and then buy a million smaller, useless toys....

[nuthead]

Ahhh yes, while I can appreciate the touch of humor in the two posts, it may give some insight into why the divorce rate is so high in our profession.

Could also be some guys don't take their wives's opinion as seriously as they should.

Maybe I wasn't clear enough that she is a great woman... I do actually enjoy being married to her.

Then why not respect her opinion? Just saying.

[99 Fenix]

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