Damn Girl Problems. Help!

[Quinn58]

Alright guys so heres the deal. I am 20, I have been interested in this girl for a while now. Basicly, heres the story, she dated an old friend of mine, basicly this is how I met her, through him, they broke up about a year ago, her and I had a fling, but she never actualy hung out with me, I tried a few times to make plans and stuff kept coming up. Her exboyfriend, the friend of mine at the time, found out we were talking to each other like that, had a fit, so she stopped talking to me, she was afraid of him. She came back around a few days ago asking why I never talk to her anymore, so I started again. I text her and what not but its like pulling teeth trying to have a conversation. She told me flat out that she is interested in me. Im not trying to be clingy or anything like that because Im not, if nothing is going to happen I want to know so I can peace out and move on. Ive had something for this girl for a while and would bust my *** to have a relationship with her. I havent talked to her for about 36 hours now giving her space and see what happens. Should I call her out on it and be like whats the deal here this is how I feel where do we go from here? or do I let it be keep trying and if this continues just back away? Im just confused about it all, I feel like I should ask her and tell her im confused but dont want to come across as creepy.

Thanks for replying to this totally random topic. Im sure I'm coming across as a bit tad obsessive just off of this.

[StainlessSteve]

Get a pumpkin...

[brn2reign]

Common sense says you never get anything by doing nothing. If she had the nerve to tell you how she feels, why not do the same? She provided one half of the formula, you have to step up (be a man) and provide the second half. The answer may be "happily ever after". But of course you'll never know unless you try. Good luck!

[Quinn58]

Thats what im thinking, its either it remains how it is or gets worse. Now or never.

[montanahogrider]

If she really was into you, she would be setting up "accidental" meetings where you just keep running into her. It sounds to me as if she is a game player. She lets you know she is interested in you, That's casting the bait. Then she does nothing. No calls, no response. She either already has another boyfriend, or she is not really that into you and it's something her girlfriends have told her to do. Either way, I would move on. If she doesn't contact you, she is not worth it. Plus, the way they start a relationship is the way it always will be. Do you really want to go through a relationship where you always wonder what is going on? Or where has she gone, or how come she's not calling me? Think about it.

[Quinn58]

Yeah thats true too. maybe ill give it a few more days and see what happens. if she doesnt talk to me, ill ask her why she disappeared. Your either right montana, or shes playing hard to get which i dont play that game. Time will tell

[leesrt]

First off, why does the ex getting upset that shes into you cause her to stop talking to you. What does she care (in other words she does care) about what he thinks.

Second, if you're counting the amount of time you haven't spoken to her in "hours" your are borderline stalking. You go after her and she backs off and you back off and she wonders why you haven't talked to her? You don't see what she's doing? She likes being hunted but doesn't want to be caught.

You need to back way off, like find someone else way off. If she wants to be with you let her make the next move. If she doesn't you got your answer.
You can start this by just calling her and asking her to join you for dinner to talk about some things. Don't tell her what, just get the date. If she plays around and doesn't want to commit, run away. If you make the date and she doesn't show, run away. If she shows up to the date lay things out and get her to tell you what she wants to do. If she can't, run away.

I'm getting the feeling she likes the idea of you chasing her but she really doesn't want to be with you. Thats why I suggest you just shut if off and let it go. If she doesn't come after you then good riddance.

As far as the ex. You need to tell him to mind his own business and grow up. She's not cattle and he doesn't own her.

If you ask me all three of you are a little psycho.

[asullivan]

Im not trying to be clingy or anything like that because Im not,

Mac her hard....

Quote from chiller....

[JasperST]

I'm sorry but this sounds very grade schoolish. At 20 you should be making your own observations and decisions.

[LT Dangle]

Try dick.... we don't have all that drama.

[FJDave]

Try dick.... we don't have all that drama.

Apparently, you are not in the LA area....talk about DRAMA! Sheesh, some people seem like they can't live without it!!

[jakflak]

Dude, asking cops for relationship advice is like asking Rosanne Barr for dieting tips.

[LINY]

Dude, asking cops for relationship advice is like asking Rosanne Barr for dieting tips.

Considering the average cop goes through 3 marriages... pretty much this.

[Quinn58]

Point Taken. Im walking away from her. She does want me to chase her and I gave that crap up a long time ago.

Thanks for your help.

[brn2reign]

Point Taken. Im walking away from her. She does want me to chase her and I gave that crap up a long time ago.

Thanks for your help.

Then you'll go through life wondering, what if? It takes 2 seconds to tell her how you feel and another 2 seconds to ask her where we stand. It seems to me you are playing the games here. She may be distant towards you because you didnt step up when she did so she is probably thinking you're not into her. She did her part, time for you to do yours so in the end you can do her.

...or not.