Women's View on Pornography

[BrickCop]

I had a conversation with a co- worker who came into work somewhat flustered. Apparently his wife had caught him looking at porn on his PC. He stated it really hit the fan and she was really BS and cussed him literally out the door. He says he wasn't in any chat rooms he was just looking at pics but his wife was still bull.

This guy is 6'4" about 230 lbs- that must have be quite a sight as he fled from his angry wife.

Guys would your wife/girlfiend get BS if you were observed on an adult site?

I'm lucky my that my wife could care less...not that I ever look at that stuff.

[156]

Pornography is NOT allowed in my household. Period. My husband knows the consenquences if he should ever be dumb enough to try.

[Tprspouse]

Well, since my husband doesn't visit this site, I'll answer for him because well...he answers to me anyway. LOL just kiddin

I have found him looking before and I know that it's harmless, but I also told him that it made me feel like I wasn't anything to look at. I know that most normal everyday women don't or rather shouldn't compare themselves to what you find in porno films and magazines and I think that's most of the problem. It's not a problem with him liking it, it's the fear of him not liking ME like he likes the eye candy. After having 2 children there's no way I'd ever look like that! It's just (to me) very depressing to have found him looking at it. I wasn't so mad that I'd yell and scream at him, but he knows I didn't really like it. He did it for fun, geez...he wouldn't be "normal" if he didn't like a 38-24-38 buxom blonde with nice hooters. But, since we're married, he loves me and knows it bothers me, he doesn't look at it anymore. I take his word for it. I have to or I'd drive myself insane.

I can see how the whole internet/chat rooms/pornography can cause friction in a relationship. Setting some ground rules is a good idea. If not, then put up with it. Hopefully both sides respect each other enough to solve the problem. Because face it, there's always gorgeous looking women online and there's always right hand. Some men might resort to this instead of their wives and that's sad.

[ 04-15-2003, 10:48 PM: Message edited by: Tprspouse ]

[BrickCop]

156,

Just what ARE the consequences?!

Is it ok if he watches 'Baywatch'?

No porn at all?! Geez, you might as well confiscate the clicker too while you're at it.

[wonderwoman]

I just wonder why committed men (or women) feel the need to look at naked bodies unless its their own partners.

[ 04-15-2003, 11:35 PM: Message edited by: wonderwoman ]

[Don]

I doubt that my wife would really give a rip. I had a Playboy subscription for many years after we got married. She had no problem with it.

I'm really no porn fan anyway. When it got to the point that I felt Playboy was becoming more trashy than I cared to have around, I dropped the subscription to it.

[jellybean40]

Takes a breath...looks at time...do i have enuf time to answer this one?? LOL...and how specific can i actually get...

My ex-husband was what i consider to be a "porn-addict." luckily they didnt have chat or on-line stuff back then! he certainly didnt use it as a substitute for real sex tho. my problem with it was as Tprspouse said, i felt "inferior." BUT, that was MY problem, and as i got older i got over it. when i yelled about it, or told him NOT to watch or look at mags, he did it at work, so it didnt matter, it only made things sneakier. (YES they had a VCR in the police station and watched porn on it.)

anyhow, to me it's a touchy subject (pun intended ) if a woman doesnt allow her husband to look because she doesnt feel good about herself, to ME, SHE needs to work on that for her own good. i think most men like porn, and alot of women like it... i like it. but i'm single... and live alone LOL i dont like any of the stuff that totally degrades or physically hurts women, and i actually almost got sick when i first got on-line and saw what was on here. it scared me to think that men actually want to see things like that done to women.

ok, i'm rambling... but i also think a husband needs to respect his wife if she hates him watching porn. i really dont believe in one spouse forbidding another to do something, unless its something like cheating or drugs or alcohol... but you really cant control another person.

ok...i think i'm done

[ 04-15-2003, 11:43 PM: Message edited by: jellybean40 ]

[Evnings]

Male=Porn. No Porn=Dead male

Any woman who thinks they can limit a mans desire to seek out and look at porn is sadly mistaken.

There are some men's desire to seek out and look at porn that is greatly less than others, but there still is a shadow somewhere in their.

I had an uncle who I thought was totally asexual and had the highest moral standards of anyone short of a priest. One day when I was young, my sister and I were snooping around in his his basement. Low and behold, right behind numerous referance books was a "Playboy".

Making it difficult for men to get their dose of porn just makes for one more thing to **** each other off over.

And yes, I love porn. As long as everyone is consenting and of legal age.

The next arguement to come up will be that the mob has their hand in the pie and that porn degrades women. The mob has their hand in everything to some extent. Porn does degrade women. If women would stop consenting to making it, it would probably stop. People of both sexes do things each and every day to degrade their sex. Males make up an overwhelming majority of the spousal abusers, which is very degrading, not to mention criminal, to the male sex.

[Evnings]

I forgot to mention, in case anyone doesn't know it, I am a male

[ 04-15-2003, 11:44 PM: Message edited by: Evnings ]

[Jim Burnes]

I'm far too prissy and a secret prude to even stand next to a porn magazine

Besides, porn is not allowed here in Tejas, Northern Mexico.

Mike TX

[Jim Burnes]

Oh, thanks a lot Mike TX, for hijacking my space on the forum. Just using my name as a cover won't stop others from finding out your secret life as a porno-actor.

I apologize to all for Mikes disgraceful behavior. Forgive him, he is only a Texan after all.

Jim Burnes

[JKT]

quote:

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Originally posted by wonderwoman:
I just wonder why committed men (or women) feel the need to look at naked bodies unless its their own partners.

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Speaking for myself only, it makes me appreciate my girlfriend even more.

I like to look, because of a long-time sideline of photography, and my Father was an artist, so it's not like there were never any pictures/drawings/paintings around.

My girlfriend doesn't have a problem with me looking.

But, if I were to ever touch, I'd probably be either very lonely or very dead (or wishing I were).

[207]

I only visit porn sites to read the indepth stories and informative articles.

[Glockarmorer]

Ladies, let me let you in on a little secret...
Every man has some porn hidden somewhere in his house. Whether its mags, vids, or computer files. Its not a big deal and its not the end of the world.

You can be a shrew and say "Not in MY house" or you can be a realist and accept it. Or, you can even be FUN and enjoy it together occasionally.

Doesn't really matter, if he's hetero and he's breathing...he's checking out porn at least occasionally.

[Joseph]

I might look at a Playboy if it's laying around at work or if some guy shows me something but pictures and web sites don't do much for me when I can have the real thing. Talking about a girl friend or when I was married.