Let's talk about morals

[kateykakes]

Ok, here's the situation:

My friend called me today and asked me if I wanted to go out with her tonight for a few drinks. She said she was meeting someone from online and didn't want to go alone. I told her I'd go.

So we're yapping on the phone and she says, "Ya know, if he's ugly, I'll have to leave". I told her she was shallow and that was mean and she says, "Who cares, why waste a perfectly good evening and have a lousy time?".

She tells me she's got a code she'll be using if she doesn't like the guy. If she says it's a beautiful night out, she thinks the guy is hot. If she tells me she loves my shoes, where did I get them, she wants me to excuse myself, go to the ladies room and call her cell so she can say it's an emergency and she has to leave.

I told her I'm not doing it. I refuse. I said if she wanted me to go w/her, fine, I'd go w/her to meet the guy, but I think she's going to extremes.

Any comments? What would you do?

[ 07-21-2001: Message edited by: kateykakes ]

[mac90]

That's why so many short sighted people will buy a pretty car with hidden problems than will buy a not so pretty car that performs well.

[wonderwoman]

Why would she leave? No sense in wasting a perfectly functional man!

Seriously, I agree with you 100%.
I would not be part of doing an unkind thing such as that! And letting her know as you did is important! I have a real dislike for unkind people!!! She should remember what goes around comes around eventually!

Don't go!! Let her find someone else! Or go just for her safety sake and do what you can to prevent her from humiliating the man.

[ 07-21-2001: Message edited by: wonderwoman ]

[Ray]

Thats the problem today, to many people are hung up on the looks of a person, not the person themselves.

I was very lucky and married a woman that has to love me, cause Tom Cruise Im not. We've been together for nearly 20yrs now and still going strong.

[mac90]

Gawd I wish I was Tom Cruse! First Nicole, and now that 27 year old Hotie that I can't remember her name! My gawd can you imagine all the ones in between! Like a kid in a candy store, with unlimited funs.

[kateykakes]

Wasn't Cruise married to Mimi Rogers too at one time?

And BTW, WW, I'm going to go w/her for safety reasons. She may be a shallow witch, but I wouldn't want anything to happen to her. Besides, she's how I feel about the situation. I never hold back in saying what's on my mind.

[blondie72]

Posted by Wonderwoman: "Why would she leave? No sense in wasting a perfectly functional man"!

LOL! How true

Seriously though, Kaytey, I think you made the right decision. It is interesting how some people do focus ALL their attention on how a prospective partner looks. For me, if I am deciding whether someone is sexy or not- it mainly has to do with their personality. A good- looking fool will turn me right off. Likewise, a confident, assertive, plain- looking guy may just set my heart racing.

[ 07-21-2001: Message edited by: blondie72 ]

[Excalibur]

Oh boy, meeting someone from on-line. That is an adventure. You're right for not wanting to play the games, kat. If she doen't like the guy, she should have the courtesy of telling him up front. But then, he might not like her in person. Or, he might be more interested in you.

It is wise for her not to go by herself though, because you have no idea bout the person she is meeting. She should have an agreement from the guy that either of them can just walk away from the meeting without an explanation. Might be a good idea to exchange pictures before the meeting happens.

Any way it turns out, it's an adventure. Wish her luck.

[Niteshift]

Yes, Tom Cruise was married to the older Mimi Rogers, then Nicole. He's now dating Penelope Cruz.........by far the hottest of the 3.

Just to interject something here......... I don't think this is a question of morals, rather a question of ethics. It's a fine distintion, but there is a slight difference.

[kateykakes]

Actually Nite, there's more to this story but I can't really say. Trust me on the morals thing.

[ 07-21-2001: Message edited by: kateykakes ]

[Gubmentcheez]

Originally posted by kateykakes:
She tells me she's got a code she'll be using if she doesn't like the guy. If she says it's a beautiful night out, she thinks the guy is hot. If she tells me she loves my shoes, where did I get them, she wants me to excuse myself, go to the ladies room and call her cell so she can say it's an emergency and she has to leave.

Damn Katey it sounds like a scheme from a bad Three's Company episode.

So what do you do when Mr. Roper knocks on the door?

[kateykakes]

Gub,

LMAOOOO!! Have I ever told you that you just ain't right???

[grum]

This has the makings of a military op by the sounds of it. Better make sure your comms are secure, and that you follow proper procedure.

"Redleg-6 this is Charger-4, please stand by for SITREP." Over

"This is Redleg-6, standing by"

Roger Redleg "I like your shoes", Over

"Affirm on the nice shoes Charger, Commence flirting on my mark, popping smoke now" Over

Redleg, Can you confirm Purple smoke? Over

Charger, Confirm purple smoke, Good luck and Good hunting" Redleg Over

Not to poke fun at your situation Katey, but it seems awfully complicated.

[kateykakes]

LMAOOOO Grum! I had a great laugh over that! And btw, men are supposed to know that ALL women are complicated!


In case you're wondering, the night out was a total blast. Lots of fun.

[Pigskin]

On behalf of all the ugly men in the world, I was proud of you just for speaking up, Katey.