Can you help?

[Mitzi]

I read a horrifying story on another forum.
This womans husband had an affair. Thay have three children. He assured her it was over but it isn't, in her opinion.
One of their children has been in remission from leukemia but ended up in the hospital with a 104.6 fever. She and her husband are taking turns spending around the clock with him. Here the story becomes scary and heartbreaking.
She and her husband left the hospital briefly together to go home, see their other 2 kids, shower and change. While they were there, this supposedly former girlfriend paid the little boy a visit. She told him she was his Daddy's girlfriend and now this poor, sick little boy is condused and scared. His mother told the nurses to restrict visits and gave her the name of those not allowed to visit, this woman being the one not allowed to visit.
Before her son relapsed, they had come home to broken house windows, broken car windows and their cat was killed and left on their porch.
When the mother went to return to the hospital, there were dead flowers on her car and a note saying, "Trash for trash....these are the flowers your husband gave me the other day".
This poor woman is convinced her husband is still seeing this woman but he refuses to leave his family. She said some things have happened that only he knew this woman seemed to know.
We all advised her to get a restraining order, not that it would work. This Other Woman sounds capable of almost anything. We also advised her to get a lawyer and see what could be done. I, like others, believe she and her children are in danger. We also believe she should not allow her husband near her since, in her opinion, he is still seeing this psychotic woman. But that would be hard since he has every right to see this son and the other 2 children which would put him and his wife in the same vicinity, something this psycho woman seems to go crazy over.
Any other suggestions?

[Ray]

It sounds like this "other woman" is a sicko. What was that movie, I think it was Michael Douglas and Sharon Stone. You cannt reason with this type of person.

They need to file police reports and talk to an attorney. It may come to hiring a PI to gather evidence enough to file charges.

Its a shame that spouses cannt control themselves and place their families in this type of situation, and it's not just us Men that do this.

[Mitzi]

It sounds like she's been so worried about her son, understandably, that she didn't really take this seriously until the woman visited her son alone in the hospital. She takes it very seriuosly now and is really scared.

[Arctic Cop]

Mitzi-Where do you find all these freaks and weirdos??????????????

[Mitzi]

lol The computer world...OF COURSE! lol I joined an infidelity board about 2 years ago to help me through our son's divorce. I simply could not understand how my ex-daughter-in-law could be so cruel or how many of people I had known for years could do what they were doing to their families.
I don't go there often but this post from this woman did catch my eye.

[txinvestigator1]

Mitzi,

I love you, so I have to tell you; you have enough to deal with in your life right now. Please don't go back to that thread or give it another thought. It is too easy to feed off of that kind of thing.

[Mitzi]

Well, my husband wasn't "babysitting" me so I went on the computer. I am well aware that I am a sensetive person and things affect me much modre then they do most people. THis is one reason I don't watch news programs. I get tired of hearing all the depressing stuff.
It's just that this post on that board kind of jumped out at me.
I only come to this board and went to that one out of boredom.

[Darth Tang]

Sounds like my ex.

[klar]

LOL why do you say that DT?

Klar

[nickg]

can you say "Fatal Attraction"???? I knew you could.

[Mitzi]

My son always had a real hard time when a girlfriend would break up with him. It got so bad, he once was pounding on the windows and dorrs of one girl. The parents called me and he was in counseling the next day. It has something to do with rejection and loss. Fatal Attraction goes to the Nth degree.
In my Mother's case, it was not a fatal attraction because it was my brother who is still in hiding from her. She simply could NOT accept that he was married and "left" her. They moved constantly then figured out that she was finding them through their credit card. She worked in the credit department of a department store. She found them in North Carolina and tried to take their three small children from the front yard but my brother saw her and freaked.
They moved and she has not been able to find where they live since. It's really hard to have grown up with a mother this sick. The poor woman has had a really terrible life herself. But, my brother realizes he can never get his wife around her. I believe my mother would do her physical harm. When she sees her, her eyes narrow and her body language is very menancing. She sees my sister-in-law as having "stolen" my brother and hates her with a passion. We have all had to take turns watching her around my brothers wife in the past because we are afraind Mother will hurt her. She tells everyone that my SIL told him she was pregnant (untrue)to get him to marry her and that my SIL told her she was going to see to it that my Mother never saw him again (also untrue).
It's really a sad situation. I have 2 nephews and one neice I have not seen since they were very little because of this. My brother contacts no one because he is so afraid Mother will gind him.

[Joseph]

Mitzi, I have to agree with Twixinvesgator1 on this one I realize this woman is having problems If she has been advised to file a restraining order and see an attorney I wouldn't go back to the thread. With everything you going through you don't need this. Take care.

[Mitzi]

Oh, I haven't gone back. I fiemly believe in giving the advice then they are on their own.