Domestic restraining oredrs

[ubergeek]

I was not sure how to title this, but I thought this may be of interest to some people here. I have read several threads about domestic calls that some people here have been on. It seems to me one of the more frustrating aspects is that the victim of these crimes will often return to the relationship. It seems a judge in Ky fined two women for contempt of court for doing just that.

I was wondering what everyone in here thinks about this. The article is here

[Joseph]

I disagree with this judge fining them for comptemt of court. The abusers take all these women's self esteem over the period of time they together. They really believe that they are worthless and the only person that will accept them are the abusers. These ladies need a lot of therapy to return there self worth and get back and on with their life. However they have to be away from there abusers. They have been punished enough. The judge would have done a lot better to order them to therapy for the contemt. That way he could have made his point and helped the women at the same time.

[Ray]

You can lead a horse to water but you cannt make it drink. The same for people in these situations. Ive heard all the excuses, he didn't mean it, I love him, I dont have any where else to go.

The problem is most of these individuals, men and women, actually believe what they are saying. They refuse to acknowledge the fact that their "Loved one" is an abuser and needs to be locked up with the key thrown away.

[MPD3P59]

I try to take care of the incident at hand and leave the rest to the court and social workers. Sure they are inadequate but I'm not loosing sleep over some person who won't leave an abusive relationship. The help is there. Take it or leave it.

Maybe it sounds cold but I don't want to get my emotions and personal life tied up into my work. I have better things to do.

[Don]

MPD3P59 has the right approach. You do what you can to help them, but doggone it we can only do so much. We don't have the time to baby sit them and we did NOT take them to raise.

[Blonde Heat]

Maybe instead of contempt he should of sentenced them to a treatment for domestic abuse sufferers facility. The reason these women put up with it is because it starts from an early age and they believe its the way they are supposed to be treated. He should of used his position of power to help them with thier position of feeling like they have no power to overcome the abuse. Then told them thier lives are worth more then what they think. Nothing like a dose of self esteem to help them on thier way to get out from under the abuse.

[LBomb]

Originally posted by MPD3P59:

Maybe it sounds cold but I don't want to get my emotions and personal life tied up into my work. I have better things to do.

Not cold. smart. For you and your family. Leave the job and all it's baggage at the job.