latest survey to cause alarm ...

[MK219]

56% of teens having their first at home!
For those with teens what do you think? Do you talk to your kids about it? Would you let your teens have sex in YOUR house? Would you beat them if you caugt them?

[InSane1]

Ahh yeah..

#1. like you never had sex as a teenager?
#2. I would probably discretely bring up "sex".
#3. Let? Ahh NO, NOPE, NEGATORY, NEVER. ABSOLUTELY NOT LET THEM. But of course I cant watch them every second of the day, the rule is... NO FRIENDS IN THE HOUSE WHEN IM GONE!
#4. hmmm... Beat them? Nah.... I would be very sad and probably get all emotional and say... "SEE WHAT YOUR DOING TO ME???"lol.. give em a really bad guilt trip.

[jellybean40]

well, i dont have kids...thank God

but i remember how we couldnt wait for my parents to leave the house! lol...i dont mean we literally COULDN'T wait... we were just glad when they went out! i didnt have my first time in their house, tho.

actually, even nowadays, my sisters and myself, when taking b/f's or live-ins to the house at the shore, if mom was there, we slept in different rooms.

i think you can try to teach your kids, but sometimes that ol' urge will overpower their common sense.

[ 09-26-2002, 07:45 PM: Message edited by: jellybean40 ]

[MK219]

Just for the record, my first ended up with me be coming a father. Parents left for their 25th anniversry, I sent them to Florida ! I had my girlfriend at the time come over, we watched a disney cartoon (Robin Hood) and had chinese food.

My daughters are 3 and 7.I'll wait untill the 7 year old turns 13 then slowly start talking about IT,till then I've set some basic ground rules for the house, so when it is time for the "TALK", she'll already knows how I feel,and understand my veiw on exceptable morals/behavior.
I would not let them have guys alone in their rooms.Hey I'm a guy I know what goes on behind close doors![ No, I would not beat them, but I do collect swords Hey buddy, want to date my daughter? Well lets first talk about hobbies, I collect swords, what do you do? nothing! that's a good answer boy remember that while you're dating my daughter!]
You can't stop them but you can guide them to the right choices.

[ 09-26-2002, 10:24 PM: Message edited by: Mortal Knight ]

[Evnings]

I had sex with one g/f while her parents were in the house asleep, not just once, but several times. There was more than just a little element of thrill to it.

[Godside]

I'm a supporter of a program called "True Love Waits". This program encourages abstinence until marriage. I am 20 y.o.a., and a male, I am sure that I am among a small percentage of Americans who are waiting until their wedding day to have sex. When people find out that I am still a virgin I usually get one of two replies, "That is so awesome, I wish I would have done the same." or something along the lines of "Are you smoking crack?! How do you know if a marriage will work unless you test the water some?"

As a supporter of "True Love Waits", I will teach my child(ren) the concepts that this program teaches. I do understand however that teens will be teens and I cannot STOP them from doing anything -- I can however make it harder for it to happen

[Incendiary]

Which part of getting your *** banned do you not understand?

[ 09-27-2002, 01:50 AM: Message edited by: Niteshift ]

[Watchman]

Enough ranting. Who cares where kids have sex? It's no one's business but their own.

You might if your 17 year old daughter came home pregnant.

And it would be your business since she cant support herself and you just aquired another mouth to feed,additional medical bills ,staying up at night and all of the other loads of fun stuff that comes with new born babies.

[Godside]

quote:

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Originally posted by Incendiary:
I would have had to have her at birth.

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I believe Watchman was speaking hypothetically. IF you had a 17 year old daughter, you may feel differently than you do now.

I agree, if you're going to have sex, practice safe sex! Above all else though, remember that condoms are not fullproof. In my honest opinion, if you think you are responsible enough to have sex, you better be responsible enough to care for a child!

[jellybean40]

quote:

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Originally posted by Incendiary:
I was pointing out my lack of knowledge of what it is like to be a parent.

I've had sex with more than one girl, all were on birth control, however. Kids are actually qute safe these days.

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They're not safe from STD's, trust me. i volunteer at a clinic. one out of 3 males under age 24 has an STD! use a condom along with whatever birth control she's on, or says shes on. you cant always trust someone to say they're using birth control, by the way. take your own precautions also.

[shorty]

*post edited to remove quote from THE TROLL

And since my reply makes no sense w/o the quote, I am removing the reply!

[ 09-27-2002, 12:06 PM: Message edited by: shorty ]

[nickg]

quote:

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Originally posted by Evnings:
I had sex with one g/f while her parents were in the house asleep, not just once, but several times. There was more than just a little element of thrill to it.

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i can DEFINITELY relate!!

[MK219]

I don't thinl teen sex is a subject to be taken lightly but, has any one seen that commerical:

guy: who's your daddy, who's your daddy? (while headboard is banging on the parents bedroom wall)

father in next room: I'M HER DADDY!
Mother in bed with the father: So who's your mommy?

That's a funny commerical.
I had sex in my g/f's house while parents were home, in my home while my were home. I was 19-20 at the time. But it didn't feel respectful though.FUN ,but disrespectful.

[555]

I resent all the attention some pay to girls regarding the issue. What about your sons?

[shorty]

Hey, I think sons are just as responsible. It does take two to make a baby, ya know.

I know that kids will be kids and all that blah blah. But the thing that I don't agree with is the fact that these teens are going out and having sex and getting pregnant and then they don't want to take responsibility. Usually one of the teens parents are stuck taking care of the child and it is not their responsibility.
Fact of the matter, kids want to have fun. Sex is fun. Getting up every two hours to feed and change a screaming baby is not fun. If you want the good, you have to take the bad. Sometimes kids have to grow up way to soon because they make bad choices.