Trooper almost hit by drunk driver

[Tprspouse]

Yup..my husband. He's in the paper. I'd post the link but it has his full name in it and then you'll know who I am and then all of my stalkers will find me and ....lol

He was investigating a car accident on the interstate during the snowstorm the other day and while he was out of the car he noticed a car coming toward him. He had to dive out of the way to avoid getting hit. The drunk driver crashed into the side of his cruiser. He's ok though, he just skinned up his hands.

The drunk driver was a minor. Can you imagine being drunk and driving in a snow storm? Drinking and driving is dangerous enough....

[Direct Kodi]

TprSpouse, omg, that must've made your heart skip a beat. I'm so glad that your husband is alright.

Tell your husband that this little girl from O.com told you to tell him that she hopes he is safe, always.

=)

[CopInNY]

Glad your husband is smart enough to put himself in a posistion where he can see oncoming traffic and take evasive action should the need arise. Close call, tell him CINY says good job

[Traffic_Goddess]

I'm really glad that he is okay, Tpr...*hugs*

[Tprspouse]

The newspaper said he "ran and fell". They made him look like a clutz. That's the media for ya!

[Glock Girl]

[ 02-20-2003, 11:24 PM: Message edited by: Glock Girl ]

[WHC166]

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Originally posted by Tprspouse:
The newspaper said he "ran and fell". They made him look like a clutz. That's the media for ya!

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I'll be nice and not comment on that(since I have to work with him and all!)! I was suprised when I read the paper, as I've been gone a few days and hadn't heard about it. Glad to hear he was okay!

[Tprspouse]

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I just don't know how you can sound so OK with everything

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I don't know what to tell you, except that I just have a lot of faith in God. I know that the job is extremely dangerous, but to take him away from something he loves would be taking the life out of him. I leave it up to God and don't worry about anything. He's a very smart guy and I know that accidents can happen, but I just know he'll be as defensive as he possibly can. Anything else, we'll deal with.

VTFUZZ...I was wondering where you went!

[Don]

I'm glad the DH is OK. About three years ago, in a similar situation, a small town PD officer in Colorado lost his life. He jumped to avoid being struck by an 18 wheeler that had lost it on the ice. Only thing is, that the "guard rail" he jumped over was acutally a bridge railing. He fell to his death. . .

As I said, I'm glad your DH is OK! I'm also glad to see that you have faith in his abilities. This is a tremendous asset to anyone in this business. It really sucks when your spouse is always "afraid" for you. What it really says, is that the spouse has NO CONFIDENCE in your ability to come home at the end of the shift!

[Glock Girl]

[ 02-20-2003, 11:24 PM: Message edited by: Glock Girl ]

[Don]

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Originally posted by Glock Girl:
That's the type of situation that I'm afriad of every day, and I don't think there is anything wrong with that.

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Ok, my post was NOT aimed at you or your post, in particular. However, this one is.

If you are living in fear every day, and you don't think there is anything wrong with that, a few trips to a psychologist might not be a bad idea. I honestly do not believe that you will maintain your marriage in this manner.

Should you stay in your marriage for many more years, without changing your outlook, you will be tearing yourself up inside. And it will spill over to your husband, and worse than that, to your kids should you have any.

I've seen way too many folks say they were "afraid of the job for their spouse," when what they REALLY mean is "I'm afraid to lose my spouse because I don't think I can cope with life alone."

[Tprspouse]

Glockgirl,

Don't forget that there are other LEO spouses out there for you to talk to, ANYTIME you want. Sometimes talking to someone else can make you feel better.

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I know God has a plan for him. I feel confident in that, but what if his plan is to die at the age of 50? I don't want to accept that

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If you know that God has a plan for him, simply stating that is a sign of acceptance of any situation that might come up. Dangerous, deadly, or otherwise. If God's plan is for him to die at 50, then he will die at 50. There would be absolutely NOTHING you could do to stop it. If his plan was to take your husband at that age, he could very well die in a car accident in YOUR car and have nothing to do with policework. You don't want to accept that? Well it sounds like you are contradicting yourself.

If my husband dies on the job, it would be a shame, but it would HAVE to be accepted. He wouldn't want me to sit here miserable the rest of my life. If he dies, he dies. I know that sounds harsh, but it's just the reality of the career he chose.

If you have any doubts at all, where your happiness and sense of security are concerned, I'd let him know about it asap. JMHO

I was a VERY UNHAPPY person when I heard he was called up for active duty Coast Guard recently. I was VERY VERY VERY unhappy, you just don't know...we got out of active duty because of that reason. Life sucked 100% for the both of us. He wanted to do state police work and I hated the government owning MY husband. My opinion is, if you don't absolutely love it, leave it. So, he left it and the retirement for me. He's no longer in the active reserves. My family was a bit shocked because he was in the military for so long. What they failed to realize is that he was only in the reserves for the retirement. For the MONEY. Well, in my life, money is nice if you have it. But, I won't sacrifice being a close family for any amount of money. Life is too short. I am very happy now. I finally found myself a job and we both work together to make this family run the way WE WANT!

I applaud all those military members who had to be deployed (including my own father...he'll be gone for up to a year). I can deal with my husband being in danger in a very dangerous job, but I can't deal with being away from him. Go figure.

[ 02-20-2003, 11:30 PM: Message edited by: Tprspouse ]

[Mitzi1]

Your H has a very loving understading wife, TR! I know it must have really scared both of you badly. Hugs!

[Tprspouse]

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Lisa

[Chaplain Keppy]

TrooperSpouse, I am thankful that your husband is safe after that near miss. Every time I preach at a Police Week memorial service, I am aware that there are people present who would have been on the honor roll if it weren't for a bullet-proof vest, the help of a partner, good training, or sometimes just dumb luck.

The conversation about God's will in all this is very interesting to me, it's something I have thought about a lot. I'd like to share my own opinion on this, and I want to say clearly that, although I am an ordained minister, I do consider this my own opinion and not any sort of "official word". There are a lot of different views on this subject, held by faithful, intelligent, educated people. Here's mine:

I'm not at all convinced that it's God's will in evidence when we suffer. God doesn't want us to suffer for doing right. God wants us to DO right, but I don't think he wants us to suffer for it. It's people who make us suffer for faithfulness, not God. I think God is like a parent whose child goes off to war. When we send our kids off to be soldiers, we hope they'll do their duty and we hope that they'll survive the war. Even when we agree with the reasons for a war, we want the war to be won without our kids having to die. I think that's how God felt about Jesus and his work, and I think that's how God feels about officers going off to work each day. I think God wants them to do their duty, but doesn't want that to cost them their life. I think God is rooting for them.

But God's will is not always done on earth as it is in heaven. Free will is serious business. If God didn't stop human beings from killing his son, he's not going to stop them from killing our sons and daughters… or stop them from killing us.

It's been said, “If you think life is a joke, consider the punchline.” Well, yes, let's consider it. Death is not the last word. My belief is, the faithful live on after physical death, thanks to God's action on their behalf. That's what I see in the cross and resurrection of Jesus. The skels of the world can't do a thing about that. And that's how God exercises his free will.

God made us mortal. It's not a question of WHETHER we'll die, but HOW and WHEN. We do have to come to terms with our mortality, because (as someone else once said) "We cannot dare to live if we cannot bear to die." It is important to be intentional about choosing well how to spend the time we have, because there really are no guarantees about tomorrow.

Stay safe-- this life is a precious gift we get to enjoy for awhile.