I need some help.....

[shooter1201]

Some of you will remember the HELL my family and I went through last fall. Well, for the past 3 months there have been ZERO probs. Yes...my daughter gave up cheering and my wife resigned as cheer sponsor, rather than FIGHT...HOPING the psycho SHE-DOG would 'go away'.

Well.....to semi-quote Elton John, 'The b!tc][ is back'.

I get a call from my wife yesterday afternoon. She's all in tears, saying this SHE-DOG came in to school and told one of the ASSistant principals that my wife had supposedly said(according to a 'friend') HER daughters had tried to kill OUR daughter(remember the 'fall' my daughter took in cheer practice?).

THEN this ***hole ASSistant principal calls my wife to the office and says he didn't want to upset her, but he felt like she needed to know. If it wasn't school business, WHY involve my wife? Jeeeezz....

This psycho SHE-DOG *LOVES* attention and the school admins keep giving it to her by ALLOWING her to come into the office and make threats and acusations, THEN saying there's nothing they can do about it, not to worry, it'll 'go away'. HELL, we can't even get a restraining order against this SHE-DOG to keep her from coming to school!

Once again, my wife wants to cower and run(says it's pointless to fight because the admin won't back her)...and she can't understand why *I* am upset with HER. She claims this mess isn't affecting ME, but it IS...through what it's doing to HER. SHE is the one that needs to strike back and fight. I'm frustrated, feeling helpless because I feel like I don't have a 'target' to strike at.

I rarely wish ill on people, but right now, I hold Bin Laden in a higher light....

BTW....Since we can't get a restraining order/order of protection, can we seek an injunction prohibiting this woman's malicious harassment of my wife?

I'm open to ANY ideas....

[ 02-01-2002: Message edited by: shooter1201 ]

[PeteBroccolo]

shooter, you better spend some sheckles on a lawyer, because this AIN'T gonna disappear!

[Royce]

I don't know what you should do, but I can give some advise.

The person you described "psycho SHE-DOG", is probably a person that is very jealous of your wife. This person sounds like they have alot of problems with getting along with people. She(the psycho) probably even hates herself. She's sounds like she's taken her anger out on other people(your wife).

Think about it for a second... it is a hell of a responsibilty to hate a person! I'll bet.. everytime she see's your wife, she think's it 's her(psycho) responsibilty to act out loud or do something stupid, right? These people(psycho) like to push people to see how far they can get away with something. Till someone get's hurt!

Remember, it's say's in the bible that "jealousy" is worse then "hate and anger". It's like a disease with some people. She(psycho) likes it when your wife gets upset. She(psycho) thrives on it!

So..... the last thing YOU want to do is play into her hands. Because then you get yourself into trouble.

Good luck

[Nittany Lion]

It sounds like your family is going through alot. I think the best advice for you is to keep communicating with your wife and try to understand her feelings on this, even if you don't agree with her.

I am pretty young and not married, but I have now seen 2 and almost 3 divorces involving my either of my parents. The common factor was lack of communication, they get angry, close up and things just fester inside.

The last thing you want to do, is let this psycho drive a wedge between you two.

And talk to a lawyer about this women, if only for consultation. You don't know what crazy people like this are going to do next and you need to cover your back.

GOOD LUCK!

[Blonde Heat]

I think in this case Royce has the best solution. Also have you heard the phrase Kill them with kindness. This witch obviously has it in for everyone and wants all the attention. So whatever you do don't play into her scheme. She has problems of her own and is causeing trouble because she probably has a real psyhcotic problem. Try to stay away from the demon and you might consider telling your wife to remove herself from the situation by transfering to a different district or school if thats where she works. There are just some people who don't get it no matter what and anything you or your wife does will never be enough to help your wife deal with this woman. So get out before the she-dog destroys whats left of your sanity and your ability to think rationally. People can be driven insane.

[mnrez]

I would seek the advice of a lawyer as well, the Bible also says "pray for those who despitefully use you" I think you and you wife should pray together for strength and direction, it has never steered me wrong. I also agree that this is a problem that will not go away without some intervention, be it legal or spiritual.

I'll say a prayer for you and yours,
mnrez

[Joseph]

I agree with Pete I think it's about time to go see a lawyer and see what any or all of your options are here.

[Sparky]

"We do, doodley do, doodley do, doodley do,
What we must, muddily must, muddily must, muddily must;
Muddily do, muddily do, muddily do, muddily do,
Until we bust, bodily bust, bodily bust, bodily bust."
- from 'Cat's Cradle' by Kurt Vonnegut

If it's your wife's choice not to fight, then she should be ready to deal with the results of that decision. Likewise, if you decide to fight it, then you should all be ready to live with that choice as well.

Bottom line - A job is only as good as the people you work with. It sounds like your wife works with a bunch of sh*tbirds. Would she be happier in the long run working somewhere else? Even if this situation solves itself, will she be happy working there?

Life is too short to put up with misery and unhappiness. If this work environment is making her miserable, then perhaps the best choice would be to go somewhere else. I haven't heard of a retirement plan yet that would make up for years of misery and unhappiness.

If the job takes so much out of you that you don't have enough time and energy for your family, then the job needs to go.

That's my two cents. I hate seeing someone be miserable over a two-bit job when jobs are a dime a dozen.

[ 02-04-2002: Message edited by: Sparky ]

[shooter1201]

On the advice of an attorney, she drafted a letter stating that she EXPECTED the administration to support HER in this and future matters regarding this individual and had it placed in her personnel file. Our attorney also has a copy of this letter.

In the meantime, she is actively seeking employment in a different system for the next school year.

The sad thing is that she has given 9 years of her LIFE to this school and was preparing to be this school's new Guidance Counselor, a job she REALLY wanted.

BTW...the principal in her school is 30 years old, has NO kids, NEVER been married....and still lives with his parents. The SAME thing applies regarding the assistant principal...except she is around 60. Can you say 'Lacking in the life experiences necessary to make certain critical judgements'?

[Don]

BTW...the principal in her school is 30 years old, has NO kids, NEVER been married....and still lives with his parents. The SAME thing applies regarding the assistant principal...except she is around 60. Can you say 'Lacking in the life experiences necessary to make certain critical judgements'?

You have pretty well summed up this part of the problem. How the he(ck) can folks who have little/no life experience be given this much responsibility.

[ 02-05-2002: Message edited by: Don ]

[shooter1201]

How the he(ck) can folks who have little/no life experience be given this much responsibility.

How? It's called 'kissing ***'.