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  • willbird
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    I think if a person is willing to learn, jobs like that allow you to TAKE something with you when you leave that you maybe did not have when you got there.

    I did cable TV installs for about 6 mos one time, in Flint, MI and Dayton, OH both. Overall I learned a lot of things about dealing with people. And some stuff you LE guys know too...like for example there are at least 10 different ways a house can smell of urine, the worst was greyhound (dog) urine. Some mental pictures never fade, like a mattress and box springs on a basement floor, surrounded with empty 40oz malt liqueur bottles for at least 24" on every side, some half full of.....something or other. A basement floor lit by one 40 watt lighbulb, that had at least 6" of kids clothing layered on it..fairly big basement too, 30' x 30' or so.

    Completely amazing the contrasts in how people of the same general socio economic and racial backgrounds choose to live, IE do they keep their house clean...or not.

    Bill

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  • Mr. Green
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    Sounds good everyone! Thanks. I have two interviews with the city gov't next week. One working as a records tec for the PD and the other working for the city water maintenance dept. The one with the PD pays 12.11 an hour and the one with the water folk pays a little better. If I have a choice on which one I really don't know what I would pick. I am in the process of getting a waiver for my POST cert and think that the one with the PD might look good or might let me got to know some people in the PD which might help come hiring time. But I don't know. Waiting tables right now is just paying the bills till something better comes along.

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  • rwandrie
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    Sometimes you just gotta fake it with a smile.

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  • LAC_LE
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    From someone in the private sector, my advice is this: No matter what industry you work in--dining, maintenance, anything--your degree of success will always be tied to how well you get along with your co-workers. Obviously, it's not the only thing--being everyone's best buddy won't matter one bit if your job performance sucks (though job performance doesn't seem like it's an issue with you). No one wants to work with someone who's difficult/stressful to get along with, especially at a pressure cooker like a restaurant during peak dining hours. Some of your co-workers will always be a-holes, but calling them on it won't change them and only allows their failings to drag you down as well. If their BS is causing work-related problems, just tell your manager and let him deal with it. Then you don't have to get personally involved, and your manager will (hopefully) appreciate you bringing a problem to his attention.

    Regardless of the above, don't let all this bring you down too much. Willing to admit that your actions are not perfect seems like a pretty good indicator that you're on the right path.

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  • westside popo
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    Originally posted by codemanski View Post
    To sum it up...some things just plain aren't worth it, while others, (John0397), are what we should and need to focus on. If you feel the desire to change your personality to accomodate a person or situation...then by all means do it! If you don't want to change, then don't...the choice is entirely up to you. But understand this, no matter what decision you make, only YOU are responsible for the outcome...no one else! Hope you find the "happy medium", and good luck!

    Hey Westside...did you know that 9 out of 10 people who are constipated really don't give a crap?!!!! (Indisputable fact!)
    Now that you mentioned it I have been...

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  • willbird
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    It sounds like the OP has a problem with authority :-).

    Bill

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  • codemanski
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    To sum it up...some things just plain aren't worth it, while others, (John0397), are what we should and need to focus on. If you feel the desire to change your personality to accomodate a person or situation...then by all means do it! If you don't want to change, then don't...the choice is entirely up to you. But understand this, no matter what decision you make, only YOU are responsible for the outcome...no one else! Hope you find the "happy medium", and good luck!

    Hey Westside...did you know that 9 out of 10 people who are constipated really don't give a crap?!!!! (Indisputable fact!)
    Last edited by codemanski; 04-07-2011, 07:17 AM.

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  • westside popo
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    Originally posted by 1042 Trooper View Post
    Lots of folks have said the same thing here.

    Try to accept the crticism as truth. If you like being that way, screw 'em all.

    If you don't, let go and relax a bit. In a hundred years no one is going to know you were even here, so let it go and enjoy life.
    I feel the same way.
    One of the reasons I came back to this site and started posting again was for the laughs and too chat with like minded people. I feel depressed enough working at my current dead end job and can use as much humor as I can get.
    Last edited by westside popo; 04-07-2011, 07:41 AM.

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  • pfchell
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    you're

    Originally posted by Mr. Green View Post
    Today at work I was taken to the office and told by my manager that I have a short fuse. I wasn't written up and it wasn't an official counseling, more of a friendly talk. He said that he had not personally witnessed this but had been told in passing by several other employees that they think this is the case. I don't dispute this as I have been told this in the past. I don't "blow up" or go crazy or anything of the sort but I don't let anybody give me a hard time and if they try I give them a hard time back. I believe that this is in part to my law enforcement training where you don't let anyone give you crap. The people who treat me respectfully I treat with respect and the people who give me crap I am not quite so nice to. I understand that I am no longer a law enforcement officer and that I need to get many habits under control that as a law enforcement officer may be acceptable but while not in law enforcement are not acceptable.

    I told my manager I would address the issue and that the constructive criticism is welcome and warranted. Also I don't think it is acceptable for LEOs to act inappropriately and I am not trying to use this as an excuse to justify my behavior. I do want to correct this but could use some advice. I think this is only a PART of the reason for the observations by my coworkers. The only reason that I think my time as an LEO is a factor is because I never had this issue come up before I was an LEO. It has only seemed to surface since I turned in my badge and gun. The other part is that I just don't like jerks, idiots, or people who think they know everything and have to tell you that you are wrong on every stinking little insignificant issue.

    So my question is for those of you in law enforcement, those of you that are no longer in law enforcement, and those of you that were never in law enforcement but may have some insight on this issue is, how do I get away from my habits and second nature responses that I learned in the academy and picked up on the job? Many of these were crucial as an LEO to the survival of my partners and myself but as a waiter are unacceptable. I am very respectful to the customers and the manager. What ever they ask for I give them ASAP, but I tend to run into trouble with a few of the other waitstaff. I am a fun jovial person and try to get along with everybody and act professional but when people give me a hard time or act like a jack wagon I tend to....well.... have a "short fuse" as my manager put it today.

    *EDIT* Also if you are going to be sarcastic, rude or act like a jack wagon please don't reply. I consider this a serious issue and would really like some actual advice. I know I am not perfect and never will be. This is only one of many issues I have but it is one that I think I can work on and correct. Thank you.
    fine. nothing wrong with you. it's them.

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  • 1042 Trooper
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    Lots of folks have said the same thing here.

    Try to accept the crticism as truth. If you like being that way, screw 'em all.

    If you don't, let go and relax a bit. In a hundred years no one is going to know you were even here, so let it go and enjoy life.

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  • 1042 Trooper
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    xxxxxxxxxxxx
    Originally posted by iowa #1603 View Post
    "welcome to walmart........here's your cart, get your f'n crap and leave."

    (my wife works at wally world & won't let me apply there)

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  • hemicop
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    I think perhaps the answer is twofold. First, depending on where you're from, some may percieve you as having a "short fuse" when in fact it's simply how you were raised (as opposed to police training). Second, I would try to imagine each person you may want to blow-up at as being your wife or Mother---how would YOU expect a person to respond to them?
    Sure there are some genuinely stupid people in the World but perhaps they're thinking the same of YOU! I'd step back, imagine a loved one as the annoying person & treat them as you expect a stranger to treat them.....

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  • PhilipCal
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    Originally posted by Mr. Green View Post
    ^^^^^^^THIS is pretty much what I am referring to. I have no issues with customers. Customers love me. My boss even told me during our talk he thinks I do a great job, I work hard make an effort, and to keep it up. It's just that when I have called a few coworkers out on their BS they apparently went crying to the manager. I am very blunt, I don't sugarcoat things and when people act like an idiot and think they can pull their BS with me I tell them using very kind words but in a very understandable tone of voice to go F themselves. I'm not there to make friends. I have friends. If people at work want to be my friend then great I will be their friend, but if they don't and want to pull stupid BS then I have no time for people like that. Treat me with respect and I will do anything I can to help you out, both professionally and personally, but be a jerk and I'll tell you to go jump off a cliff.



    This is true, people have the ability to respond in anyway they please, but just because they can does it really mean they should? Why can't people understand that when someone is asking a serious question that it deserves a serious response. It drives me nuts when people use the line that you used. This forum doesn't belong to you just as much as it doesn't belong to me. Therefor I have just as much of a right to ask for respectful responses as people have to not give me a respectful response. Your response, however, was quite respectful and I did appreciate it. I just don't understand why people seem to go out of their way to be jerks on here sometimes. All I was saying is that if people want to be a jerk and don't have anything of value to add then please don't respond. It's a simple and easy request and if people can't honor it then it just goes to show what kind of person they really are.
    Although this doesn't seem to apply to you, the reason so many posters are treated as they are is precisely because they are total jerks when they approach the boards. They are total jerks through the course of the thread, and they remain total jerks when the thread is pulled by the moderators or dies a merciful natural death. Overall your post asked some very ligitimate questions, and seems to have garnered the same type of responses. That's called a discussion, and that is in such sharp contrast to the crybaby, self entitled, dingbats who visit us so often.Once more, I hope things work out for you.

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  • needguidance
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    I am not and have not been in law enforcement. My way of thinking is this. I will give you three tries. After the first, I will explain. The second, I will bargain. The third, I will warn. After that, if the person still wants to treat me like I am an a**hole then I will show them just how much of an a**hole I can be.

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  • deputy x 2
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    Waiter or customer service or flight attendant..........would seriously nut my arse up in a minute!

    I admit I wouldn't have the patience..and would prolly revert to back to my habeas snatches behavior!
    Last edited by deputy x 2; 04-06-2011, 11:56 AM.

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