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  • #31
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    Originally posted by iowa #1603 View Post
    "welcome to walmart........here's your cart, get your f'n crap and leave."

    (my wife works at wally world & won't let me apply there)
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    • #32
      Lots of folks have said the same thing here.

      Try to accept the crticism as truth. If you like being that way, screw 'em all.

      If you don't, let go and relax a bit. In a hundred years no one is going to know you were even here, so let it go and enjoy life.
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      • #33
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        Originally posted by Mr. Green View Post
        Today at work I was taken to the office and told by my manager that I have a short fuse. I wasn't written up and it wasn't an official counseling, more of a friendly talk. He said that he had not personally witnessed this but had been told in passing by several other employees that they think this is the case. I don't dispute this as I have been told this in the past. I don't "blow up" or go crazy or anything of the sort but I don't let anybody give me a hard time and if they try I give them a hard time back. I believe that this is in part to my law enforcement training where you don't let anyone give you crap. The people who treat me respectfully I treat with respect and the people who give me crap I am not quite so nice to. I understand that I am no longer a law enforcement officer and that I need to get many habits under control that as a law enforcement officer may be acceptable but while not in law enforcement are not acceptable.

        I told my manager I would address the issue and that the constructive criticism is welcome and warranted. Also I don't think it is acceptable for LEOs to act inappropriately and I am not trying to use this as an excuse to justify my behavior. I do want to correct this but could use some advice. I think this is only a PART of the reason for the observations by my coworkers. The only reason that I think my time as an LEO is a factor is because I never had this issue come up before I was an LEO. It has only seemed to surface since I turned in my badge and gun. The other part is that I just don't like jerks, idiots, or people who think they know everything and have to tell you that you are wrong on every stinking little insignificant issue.

        So my question is for those of you in law enforcement, those of you that are no longer in law enforcement, and those of you that were never in law enforcement but may have some insight on this issue is, how do I get away from my habits and second nature responses that I learned in the academy and picked up on the job? Many of these were crucial as an LEO to the survival of my partners and myself but as a waiter are unacceptable. I am very respectful to the customers and the manager. What ever they ask for I give them ASAP, but I tend to run into trouble with a few of the other waitstaff. I am a fun jovial person and try to get along with everybody and act professional but when people give me a hard time or act like a jack wagon I tend to....well.... have a "short fuse" as my manager put it today.

        *EDIT* Also if you are going to be sarcastic, rude or act like a jack wagon please don't reply. I consider this a serious issue and would really like some actual advice. I know I am not perfect and never will be. This is only one of many issues I have but it is one that I think I can work on and correct. Thank you.
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        • #34
          Originally posted by 1042 Trooper View Post
          Lots of folks have said the same thing here.

          Try to accept the crticism as truth. If you like being that way, screw 'em all.

          If you don't, let go and relax a bit. In a hundred years no one is going to know you were even here, so let it go and enjoy life.
          I feel the same way.
          One of the reasons I came back to this site and started posting again was for the laughs and too chat with like minded people. I feel depressed enough working at my current dead end job and can use as much humor as I can get.
          Last edited by westside popo; 04-07-2011, 07:41 AM.

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          • #35
            To sum it up...some things just plain aren't worth it, while others, (John0397), are what we should and need to focus on. If you feel the desire to change your personality to accomodate a person or situation...then by all means do it! If you don't want to change, then don't...the choice is entirely up to you. But understand this, no matter what decision you make, only YOU are responsible for the outcome...no one else! Hope you find the "happy medium", and good luck!

            Hey Westside...did you know that 9 out of 10 people who are constipated really don't give a crap?!!!! (Indisputable fact!)
            Last edited by codemanski; 04-07-2011, 07:17 AM.

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            • #36
              It sounds like the OP has a problem with authority :-).

              Bill
              Just pay your dues, and be quiet :-)

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              • #37
                Originally posted by codemanski View Post
                To sum it up...some things just plain aren't worth it, while others, (John0397), are what we should and need to focus on. If you feel the desire to change your personality to accomodate a person or situation...then by all means do it! If you don't want to change, then don't...the choice is entirely up to you. But understand this, no matter what decision you make, only YOU are responsible for the outcome...no one else! Hope you find the "happy medium", and good luck!

                Hey Westside...did you know that 9 out of 10 people who are constipated really don't give a crap?!!!! (Indisputable fact!)
                Now that you mentioned it I have been...

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                • #38
                  From someone in the private sector, my advice is this: No matter what industry you work in--dining, maintenance, anything--your degree of success will always be tied to how well you get along with your co-workers. Obviously, it's not the only thing--being everyone's best buddy won't matter one bit if your job performance sucks (though job performance doesn't seem like it's an issue with you). No one wants to work with someone who's difficult/stressful to get along with, especially at a pressure cooker like a restaurant during peak dining hours. Some of your co-workers will always be a-holes, but calling them on it won't change them and only allows their failings to drag you down as well. If their BS is causing work-related problems, just tell your manager and let him deal with it. Then you don't have to get personally involved, and your manager will (hopefully) appreciate you bringing a problem to his attention.

                  Regardless of the above, don't let all this bring you down too much. Willing to admit that your actions are not perfect seems like a pretty good indicator that you're on the right path.
                  “Let him go, Lou. Someone driving that fast has no time for a ticket.”
                  -Chief Wiggum

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                  • #39
                    Sometimes you just gotta fake it with a smile.
                    Live with honor, and let not your death be born by the pallbearers of disgrace, cruelty, weakness, and fear.

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                    • #40
                      Sounds good everyone! Thanks. I have two interviews with the city gov't next week. One working as a records tec for the PD and the other working for the city water maintenance dept. The one with the PD pays 12.11 an hour and the one with the water folk pays a little better. If I have a choice on which one I really don't know what I would pick. I am in the process of getting a waiver for my POST cert and think that the one with the PD might look good or might let me got to know some people in the PD which might help come hiring time. But I don't know. Waiting tables right now is just paying the bills till something better comes along.
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                      • #41
                        I think if a person is willing to learn, jobs like that allow you to TAKE something with you when you leave that you maybe did not have when you got there.

                        I did cable TV installs for about 6 mos one time, in Flint, MI and Dayton, OH both. Overall I learned a lot of things about dealing with people. And some stuff you LE guys know too...like for example there are at least 10 different ways a house can smell of urine, the worst was greyhound (dog) urine. Some mental pictures never fade, like a mattress and box springs on a basement floor, surrounded with empty 40oz malt liqueur bottles for at least 24" on every side, some half full of.....something or other. A basement floor lit by one 40 watt lighbulb, that had at least 6" of kids clothing layered on it..fairly big basement too, 30' x 30' or so.

                        Completely amazing the contrasts in how people of the same general socio economic and racial backgrounds choose to live, IE do they keep their house clean...or not.

                        Bill
                        Just pay your dues, and be quiet :-)

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