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  • #31
    Alright, you wanted opinions, so i'm going to give you mine. NOT trying to hurt, only trying to be honest.

    Women are attracted to confidence. That certain something that makes a man's shoulders straight and his head high. I believe it's the same the other way around. what I mean by that is that there's a note of...what's the word I'm looking for...negativity in your posts. I firmly believe that you get what you put out there. In other words, when you project an underlying feeling of negativity, then that's what you find in return. First off, learn to be happy as you are. Accept what *is* before you can learn to find and accept what will be. Alright, grasshopper, enough of that...

    Secondly, what's with the whole 'tude of having a woman in mind and it couldn't work and yada yada yada. Let me tell you something and listen up (I'm pointing my finger at you and giving you the mama look right now)...life is too short. I'm 30 years old. I've been married to an abusive man that I got away from, I have a special needs child, I'm a single mother, I'm a police Officer, I've fought cancer and won, and I've found love and lost love. I've nursed a broken heart and broken one in return. Stop getting wrapped up in the details...if you like that woman and you're attracted to her mentally, physically, and whatnot, then get up and damnit, do something about it. Don't wait, like I did, until you get bad news and realize that you haven't lived the life YOU want to. I was 25 years old when the doctor told me that I had cancer...there's no way on God's green earth I was willing to stand by and let life go on around me. You are NOT promised tomorrow and today won't wait for you...get up...get moving...don't wait or something will pass you by and you won't ever know it.

    That's it. My two cents worth.
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    • #32
      Originally posted by GPOC View Post
      In all honesty I do know that 1 person who is 42yo that I am extremely interested in but WE don't really know if it would ever work for reasons I won't put on here. Yes we have talked about with one another.

      It's almost too good to be true and in all honestly is too good to be true. If time dictates that it would work, I truely think I would be blessed. Just don't see it happening as I NEVER have been that lucky.
      Hey G, that's sweet of you, but I'm not 42 any more. I turned 46 this year.

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      • #33
        Originally posted by Smurfette_76 View Post
        Alright, you wanted opinions, so i'm going to give you mine. NOT trying to hurt, only trying to be honest.

        Women are attracted to confidence. That certain something that makes a man's shoulders straight and his head high. I believe it's the same the other way around. what I mean by that is that there's a note of...what's the word I'm looking for...negativity in your posts. I firmly believe that you get what you put out there. In other words, when you project an underlying feeling of negativity, then that's what you find in return. First off, learn to be happy as you are. Accept what *is* before you can learn to find and accept what will be. Alright, grasshopper, enough of that...

        Secondly, what's with the whole 'tude of having a woman in mind and it couldn't work and yada yada yada. Let me tell you something and listen up (I'm pointing my finger at you and giving you the mama look right now)...life is too short. I'm 30 years old. I've been married to an abusive man that I got away from, I have a special needs child, I'm a single mother, I'm a police Officer, I've fought cancer and won, and I've found love and lost love. I've nursed a broken heart and broken one in return. Stop getting wrapped up in the details...if you like that woman and you're attracted to her mentally, physically, and whatnot, then get up and damnit, do something about it. Don't wait, like I did, until you get bad news and realize that you haven't lived the life YOU want to. I was 25 years old when the doctor told me that I had cancer...there's no way on God's green earth I was willing to stand by and let life go on around me. You are NOT promised tomorrow and today won't wait for you...get up...get moving...don't wait or something will pass you by and you won't ever know it.

        That's it. My two cents worth.

        Wow...I don't even know how to respond to this one...LMAO

        I can respond to the woman in mind though. It is more difficult then you realize. It can't be a oneway street. Pushing to hard will only push it away in my opinion. She knows where I stand on the issue but like I said there is more to it.

        I am a positive person although my post may have come out differently. Maybe you misread it or maybe I didn't do a good enough job of projecting in a positive manner.

        I wrote what I felt when I worte it and it came out how it did. Negative? I don't think so or at least that wasn't my intention but I won't change what I said.


        PS....don't go pointing that mama finger at me young lady,it won't work on a 36yo

        Thank you Smurf....I do appreciate your insight
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        • #34
          Originally posted by ninjamom6 View Post
          Hey G, that's sweet of you, but I'm not 42 any more. I turned 46 this year.


          46.??????? I thought you were 27
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          • #35
            GPOC;
            You'll meet someone,when you least expect it.Just hang in there,try and do things you enjoy,have fun with your child,and be a little patient.

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            • #36
              Originally posted by GPOC View Post
              46.??????? I thought you were 27
              You didn't notice the wrinkles and strands of silver hair? Guess you were too busy looking at my. . .


              (never mind)


              Hang in there, G. You'll make it through.

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              • #37
                Originally posted by Bklngirl View Post
                GPOC;
                You'll meet someone,when you least expect it.Just hang in there,try and do things you enjoy,have fun with your child,and be a little patient.

                True dat...

                It's all good...was just looking for others thoughts on it

                It was one of those days
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                • #38
                  Originally posted by GPOC View Post
                  You may be older..I am 37 in 2 months but have been off the market since 24.


                  In all honesty I do know that 1 person who is 42yo that I am extremely interested in but WE don't really know if it would ever work for reasons I won't put on here. Yes we have talked about with one another.

                  It's almost too good to be true and in all honestly is too good to be true. If time dictates that it would work, I truely think I would be blessed. Just don't see it happening as I NEVER have been that lucky.
                  Granted I don't know any of the extenuating circumstances, but that person is sitting right there. Just because mentally you think it won't work, does not mean that it won't! You should try it at the very least, and see where it goes. The worst possible thing that you can have happen is have it not work out, and then you can move on knowing that you tried.

                  Also, my post was going to be almost identical to what Smurf said in her first paragraph. I don't know you in person, and I am new here, but the way you posted sounded almost like you were in some kind of self-pity dead end. You need to pick yourself up, go on with life, and enjoy yourself for what you have and someone will come. Confidence in yourself is important.

                  Lastly, I really liked the idea of the day care. Maybe get in to some of those meetings, become active, and get to know some of the people there. Network, network, network! I bet you would find all types of people. I guess my best advice would be keep going to new things with new people. Don't get that stale same old people that you always go out with type of thing.

                  Best of luck to you!
                  "You miss one hundred percent of the shots you never take."
                  -Wayne Gretzky

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                  • #39
                    Originally posted by Exdeus View Post
                    Granted I don't know any of the extenuating circumstances, but that person is sitting right there. Just because mentally you think it won't work, does not mean that it won't! You should try it at the very least, and see where it goes. The worst possible thing that you can have happen is have it not work out, and then you can move on knowing that you tried.I am trying and like I said WE have both talked about it. Is there a chance?yes there is. Is it a good chance? lets say 50/50. She and I both know where we stand but there are issues I won't post here. Do I hope it works and will I try...Damn right and I am presently but not aggressively

                    Also, my post was going to be almost identical to what Smurf said in her first paragraph. I don't know you in person, and I am new here, but the way you posted sounded almost like you were in some kind of self-pity dead end. You need to pick yourself up, go on with life, and enjoy yourself for what you have and someone will come. Confidence in yourself is important.The confidence is there,I was just down in the dumps that day..happens not too often though. I am fine today

                    Lastly, I really liked the idea of the day care. Maybe get in to some of those meetings, become active, and get to know some of the people there. Network, network, network! I bet you would find all types of people. I guess my best advice would be keep going to new things with new people. Don't get that stale same old people that you always go out with type of thing.I am liking this idea alot more. I am off Fridays so thinking about asking if I can volunteer there from time to time on Fridays.

                    Best of luck to you!

                    Thanks............
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                    • #40
                      As for negativity or being down, like several posters had talked about, sometimes that's why we come and post here!! Nothing wrong with letting it out! Usually we dont come and ask for help or support in this section if we're happy and cheerful and life is all good! Just a thought lol...

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                      • #41
                        Originally posted by Jellybean400 View Post
                        As for negativity or being down, like several posters had talked about, sometimes that's why we come and post here!! Nothing wrong with letting it out! Usually we dont come and ask for help or support in this section if we're happy and cheerful and life is all good! Just a thought lol...

                        I was down as i am sure happens to almost everyone at some point. The negativity was not my intention
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                        • #42
                          Originally posted by GPOC View Post
                          I was down as i am sure happens to almost everyone at some point. The negativity was not my intention
                          Yes, I had read your post and sorry if I came across as saying you weren't confident or what not. Trust me, we all go down in the dumps from time to time. I was in the dumps last week for a few days due to my finals schedule and upcoming projects, etc. I understand the feeling.

                          Either way, I wish you the best of luck with everything and the day care volunteer idea especially! Take care.
                          "You miss one hundred percent of the shots you never take."
                          -Wayne Gretzky

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                          • #43
                            Originally posted by GPOC View Post
                            I was down as i am sure happens to almost everyone at some point. The negativity was not my intention
                            I know...i didnt take it as negative...i took it as asking for input.

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                            • #44
                              Originally posted by Smurfette_76 View Post
                              Alright, you wanted opinions, so i'm going to give you mine. NOT trying to hurt, only trying to be honest.

                              Women are attracted to confidence. That certain something that makes a man's shoulders straight and his head high. I believe it's the same the other way around. what I mean by that is that there's a note of...what's the word I'm looking for...negativity in your posts. I firmly believe that you get what you put out there. In other words, when you project an underlying feeling of negativity, then that's what you find in return. First off, learn to be happy as you are. Accept what *is* before you can learn to find and accept what will be. Alright, grasshopper, enough of that...

                              Secondly, what's with the whole 'tude of having a woman in mind and it couldn't work and yada yada yada. Let me tell you something and listen up (I'm pointing my finger at you and giving you the mama look right now)...life is too short. I'm 30 years old. I've been married to an abusive man that I got away from, I have a special needs child, I'm a single mother, I'm a police Officer, I've fought cancer and won, and I've found love and lost love. I've nursed a broken heart and broken one in return. Stop getting wrapped up in the details...if you like that woman and you're attracted to her mentally, physically, and whatnot, then get up and damnit, do something about it. Don't wait, like I did, until you get bad news and realize that you haven't lived the life YOU want to. I was 25 years old when the doctor told me that I had cancer...there's no way on God's green earth I was willing to stand by and let life go on around me. You are NOT promised tomorrow and today won't wait for you...get up...get moving...don't wait or something will pass you by and you won't ever know it.

                              That's it. My two cents worth.
                              First, the confidence thing, very true. I've been out with my guy friends that are considered very attractive by women,(I'm not saying I'm ugly. I'm a dead sexy b!tch.)But I would alway end up with the hot girl at the end of the night. I told them they need to learn how to talk and listen. And most importantly command respect. It's still a work in progress.

                              Second, your story. You ar awesome. I have alot of respect for you. Handle your business. You go girl.

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                              • #45
                                well i met my husband on match.com I was a single parent working long hours at a crappy casino before i was a leo, and I just didnt have the time to go looking for men nor the pride,I didnt have alot of friends but I found my other half online and we have been together now for 3 years and married for 3 months. I think you need to try other avenues but keep the bars out of thoose ideas
                                ‎"I'm angry. It's okay. I'll process my anger. I love myself. Whoosah.

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