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    I know this sounds lame and it is embarassing to even ask but do any of you have any experience with the various dating sites? I am recently divorced and the only women I have met recently are not the calibre that I wish to start anything with. The time constraints make it hard and I do not do the bar scene anymore. I am really just curious if any of you have made any "matches" on the sites and if so how did things develop? I am not looking for much more than a "friend" at this point and if things progress I suppose that would be okay. I appreciate any help or information you can provide. Thanks in advance and stay safe.

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    Well I personally have never used such a service...but I know friends who have. One friend in particular....I felt was quite harsh.....in terms of how she responded to some of the guys....on-line...as well as during the initial "interview" as it were. She seemed to have a pre-concieved notion of what the guy should...umm.....look like....his height.....his profession....etc......as well as his personality.....in other words...she set herself as well as the prospective date up to "fail"...before they even had a chance. So the bottom line is....unless you have thick skin.....you may have some women rejecting you for superficial reasons.....totally unfair....but some can be quite heartless.......but it also seems par for the course. All I can suggest is.....if you don't already attend church....it may be something you may want to pursue....to meet that special someone....or you might want to check out Dr. Phil's webiste.....he talks about one particular dating service on-line that has the best success rate in terms of matches.....and subsequent marriages.....even though that's not what you are necessarily interested at the moment. Best of luck in your journey....

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    • #3
      Thanks for the info.

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      • #4
        Yes, i have tried dating sites. I didnt have luck with them. But part of the reason was ME. I got nervous about actually meeting the guy in person. I think i was just "afraid" of the things that women need to be afraid of. I guess guys need to be cautious too, but i think its scarier for women. Once you give your home phone number nowadays, someone can find out your address also. (my cell phone doesnt always get a good signal from home)

        I found that Yahoo Personals was mostly people trying to 'hookup' (sex), and that isnt what i was looking for. I was hoping to meet someone and then see if we had the chemistry, and possibility for a real relationship.

        I met alot of guys on AgeMatch.com, but didnt meet any in person (yet). I find that its SO easy for people to disappear once you've made contact, or even after alot of emails and phone calls. I only give one final email... meaning if they dont answer my last one, i send one more and thats it.

        So for now i've cancelled all my memberships. I do have friends that have met husbands and wives from dating sites (alot of them use Match.com), and also people that have just had some good dates. I hear that EHarmony is good for people who are very serious and looking for a spouse, but i think its like $50/month. I dont know if you have a MySpace page, but i've met a couple really good guy friends on there...its easy for people to check your profile and see your interests, etc. and decide if they want to start a friendship. And its free!

        good luck

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        • #5
          I met my wife on Match.com. If you decide to go this route, decide if you want to put your profession, or something close (like Gov't Emergency Services employee)
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          • #6
            I had an ad on yahoo personals awhile back (3 yrs ago) but I took it down. Couldn't find anyone I was interested in or vise versa.

            You might find an "online" site that specializes in a favorite interest of yours. I tried to find one for Baseball and Fitness.


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            • #7
              I actually met my wife using match.com. We both were recently divorced and neither were looking for anything specific. She happened to find my listing and made the first move. We emailed back and forth for about a month and talked on the phone to get a feel for each other. After about a month and a half, we met face to face for the first time over coffee and have been together since. She truly is the love of my life, and I never thought I would have found her on any web site. Total opposite of my ex.
              My best friend tried the dating game on line for almost a year and a half, and all he got out of it was a bunch of first dates on his dime and still single to this day. He would tell you they are a crock full of liars and losers. My opinion, its all up to you.
              Going call to call wondering why I ever signed up for this!!!

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              • #8
                Originally posted by BaseballBabe
                I had an ad on yahoo personals awhile back (3 yrs ago) but I took it down. Couldn't find anyone I was interested in or vise versa.

                You might find an "online" site that specializes in a favorite interest of yours. I tried to find one for Baseball and Fitness.


                I can't seem to find a man whom wants a woman who likes baseball as much as I do.
                LOL!! I love baseball as well...go Cubbies!! I would not have thought you would have had much trouble finding a guy with interests like that.

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by PWPS11
                  I actually met my wife using match.com. We both were recently divorced and neither were looking for anything specific. She happened to find my listing and made the first move. We emailed back and forth for about a month and talked on the phone to get a feel for each other. After about a month and a half, we met face to face for the first time over coffee and have been together since. She truly is the love of my life, and I never thought I would have found her on any web site. Total opposite of my ex.
                  My best friend tried the dating game on line for almost a year and a half, and all he got out of it was a bunch of first dates on his dime and still single to this day. He would tell you they are a crock full of liars and losers. My opinion, its all up to you.

                  Match.com seems to be pretty good for a couple of you on here, I may have to check it out..thanks.

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                  • #10
                    match.com

                    Another positive vote for match dot com. I met my fiance on that site, and we're getting married in October. I was on that site for less than a month when I came across her profile. Like the others, we emailed for awhile, then decided to meet over coffee. The rest as they say is history...

                    Good luck with it. I did this after a divorce too. It's a good way to start circulating back into dating. I found it convienent because you could get to know a little about the person before a meeting. And usually, the meet is just for coffee or drinks, so if it doesn't work, no big deal.

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                    • #11
                      Before I got married I used several of the sites. While I do not think any of them are great, I got the best results from match.com. I seemed that most of the other ones were people just wanting to hook up. Granted, match.com has their fair share of that, but you will find that most paying members want something more. I always reffered to it as a $12.95 p/month escort service. My only advise would be to steer away from those without pictures. In today's technology age, there is really no excuse for someone to not have a digital photo.

                      Good luck.
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                      • #12
                        I think the on-line scene is a very different experience based on whether you're male or female. Men usually have to deal with women that are bigger then they said they were, women have to wade thru a whole lot of players. I found a lot of men don't respect what I consider a "basic" safety rule - meeting in a public place.

                        A lot of the sites have a much smaller pool of singles then they imply - there are lots of faked profiles! Match.com recently settled a federal suit, for luring former members back with fake "I'm interested" messages. People had to rejoin to respond, only to be left hanging. How mean is that!

                        I've tried a couple sites, and met a couple people, and had some e-mail exchanges. For me it was a nice way to "practice" but didn't really suit me as a person.
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                        • #13
                          Hi Pinneditonagain,

                          If you're thinking about online dating, etc. Just beware of the following:

                          http://www.nydailynews.com/front/sto...p-312443c.html
                          http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/americas/4451606.stm

                          While it can be fun, I met some good friends, for dating its a 50/50 chance you take. Tread carefully!

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                          • #14
                            I agree with a similiar interest site. I met my guy on a site like this one. We talked as friends for about a year. Fate had us single at the same time and sparks flew. Been four months now. It is a little harder when distance is a factor but you can really get to know someone online. In long courtships it is more difficult to hide your genuine self. When all you have is talking for extended periods...you run out of phony stuff to say and get real. Good luck.

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by Pinneditonagain
                              I know this sounds lame and it is embarassing to even ask but do any of you have any experience with the various dating sites? I am recently divorced and the only women I have met recently are not the calibre that I wish to start anything with. The time constraints make it hard and I do not do the bar scene anymore. I am really just curious if any of you have made any "matches" on the sites and if so how did things develop? I am not looking for much more than a "friend" at this point and if things progress I suppose that would be okay. I appreciate any help or information you can provide. Thanks in advance and stay safe.
                              You just got divorced. Why do you want to try to hook up with the "right kind of girl"
                              Enjoy your freedom for a while

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