Online Cheating

[Jellybean400]

We were discussing this on another posting site.

At what point do you consider an online relationship to be "cheating"? I think innocent flirting is fine, but sexual emails, IMs, or PMs... is that crossing the line? How about chatting or instant messaging together about sex? (cybering)

Phone calls...sexual or otherwise?? If youre married or in a relationship, at what point do you think its not OK? Which also means, how much would you want YOUR spouse or S/O doing online with someone else?

[Migraman]

I'm new to the whole online thing and admit that I am somewhat beguiled how people get wrapped up in this "cyber-culture". In my opinion the moment you desire another over your spouse or S/O constitutes infidelity.

Even though its just pixels on a screen or a phone call, it is what you feel in your heart that truly matters. I do not see a problem with flirting, its part of being social. I don't see much harm in acute infatuation as it should not override your feelings for your spouse. But when you have feelings for another equal to or stronger than the feelings you have for your spouse, I see a problem with this.

[Straight Up]

If you can't / won't tell your spouse, it's cheating

[Styx]

I try not to say/write things that I would not like my husband to say or write.

I am sure I have slipped, but I try not to make it a habit.

[Groundhog]

I try not to say/write things that I would not like my husband to say or write.

I am sure I have slipped, but I try not to make it a habit.

Same here, except for the husband part. If I won't type it with her in the room, I won't type it.

[TXLady]

If you can't / won't tell your spouse, it's cheating

Agreed. No way around it.

[realluke]

I try not to say/write things that I would not like my husband to say or write.

I am sure I have slipped, but I try not to make it a habit.

very well put Stys I agree with you

[countrydoc]

I think the replies have been right on target. If it feels wrong, it's probably cheating. If you're in a committed relationship and you'd be uncomfortable with your partner knowing what you're doing...or if you'd be hurt if THEY did what YOU'RE doing, then I think you'd have to consider it cheating. And you're right Jellybean...this whole internet relationship phenomemon is intriguing. Sometimes it kinda' seems like the devil's playground

[LovnTheFuzz]

I think the replies have been right on target. If it feels wrong, it's probably cheating. If you're in a committed relationship and you'd be uncomfortable with your partner knowing what you're doing...or if you'd be hurt if THEY did what YOU'RE doing, then I think you'd have to consider it cheating. And you're right Jellybean...this whole internet relationship phenomemon is intriguing. Sometimes it kinda' seems like the devil's playground

You are right, and i'd like to add that one of the big problems is that some of people have no shame and just don't give a crap. You have to have morals and standards to 'feel' uncomfortable or feel like what you are doing is 'wrong.' I think that people who cheat - lack these things. And what a great forum here to ask this question.. i'm sure some can speak from experience.

IMO - Sexually explicit emails, IM's, Chat, and Txt msg'ing are all forms of cheating.

[Delta784]

If you can't / won't tell your spouse, it's cheating

Bingo!!!

Give the man a kewpie doll!

[Welpe]

Bingo!!!

Give the man a kewpie doll!

And from the Delta prize bin we have....

A confiscated bottle of Listerine!

OK to be serious, I like Migraman's description. I feel like I've seen that somewhere else.

[Jellybean400]

I think the replies have been right on target. If it feels wrong, it's probably cheating. If you're in a committed relationship and you'd be uncomfortable with your partner knowing what you're doing...or if you'd be hurt if THEY did what YOU'RE doing, then I think you'd have to consider it cheating. And you're right Jellybean...this whole internet relationship phenomemon is intriguing. Sometimes it kinda' seems like the devil's playground

Yeah, i know...BTDT. I'm single, though.

Two people at the last place i worked met people online and left their spouses for them.

I have made great friends online, but when it came down to it, i guess i kinda found out where i stood. This was a LONG time ago, and i'm much smarter now.

[Groundhog]

I dont even think there is suck a thing as innocent flirting. ....

Talk about a Freudian slip......

[LovnTheFuzz]

Talk about a Freudian slip......

LMAO!! Good catch.. i totally missed it

[Jellybean400]

Talk about a Freudian slip......

Oh i saw that right away...i was cracking up