Unfaithful Cops ?

[FeatherStorm5]

Male officers come across so many females...cute little ones on traffic stops and the vulnerable ones caught up in domestic situations and the like. There are many opportunities to strike up a relationship with any of those females.

My question is, do you think that most cops cheat on their spouse or do you think that the number of cheating cops is slim to none? I don't expect anyone to admit to cheating (duh), but maybe a cop who's heard other guys talking/bragging in his department can give me an honest answer? Any dispatchers who hear the dept. gossip? I'm having a rough time with a relationship that involves a LEO...need advice from other LEO's on this matter. Thanks.

[LovnTheFuzz]

I can't say with certainty that cops cheat more than other professions. I believe it is rampant everywhere.

That being said - i do know factually one department/station in particular where cheating seems to be the norm with many, many of the officers working there. I honestly don't believe this is isolated to this station either.
Don't ask, i won't go into detail who/why/what/where/how.

The best advice i can offer is this - if you don't trust the person you're with, you probably need to move on. If you are dating an LEO and can't handle the numerous opportunities they have - you probably shouldn't try.

[Jellybean400]

I can't say with certainty that cops cheat more than other professions. I believe it is rampant everywhere.

I agree.
Although it 'seems' to be more prevalent in the police profession, i dont believe the job causes it. It's the MAN himself. I think there may be more opportunites, but that doesnt mean someone has to take advantage of them.

But, its a strong man who can resist temptation. My ex-'s ego was stroked by the women he 'came in contact with.' No pun intended Of course, that wasnt all that was stroked.

[FeatherStorm5]

can't say with certainty that cops cheat more than other professions. I believe it is rampant everywhere.

You're absolutely right. I guess stuck in 'our' world, it slipped my mind that he's just a man. Men, no matter the profession, cheat on their spouses. Duh.

I'm just having an exceptionally bad night. Men just suck...what else can I say? Sigh.

[LovnTheFuzz]

Men just suck...what else can I say? Sigh.

Oh, i absolutely agree with that as well. lol

Just don't be like so many WEAK women and stick around in a realtionship that isn't right for you. FIND THE RIGHT MAN.

Good ones are out there, they are just REALLY hard to find.

[6233108]

No never, who us? We don't do such things!! Seriously, all men and women have plenty of opportunities to cheat, let's not just beat up on men for cheating, women do it too and often times better.

[Delta784]

I believe in cutting through the bull****, so I'll just say that cops do indeed cheat on their wives at an almost-sickening rate.

Of the hundreds of cops I work with, there are only a handful, including me, that I can say with confidence have never cheated on their wives.

What's the problem? First off, a guy should NEVER become a cop after he's married. This job will change him in ways he won't even realize, and he'll suddenly become five times as attractive to females, once he puts on the blue suit. If a guy becomes a cop after he's married, that marriage has a very good chance of failing. Just my observation.

I waited until I was 32 to get married for a reason. First, I got all the "bachelor" stuff out of my system, and I had also been on the job long enough that my wife knew what she was getting.

[LovnTheFuzz]

Along with what Delta said,

I want to add that the 'brotherhood' is very adept at protecting it's members.
I also know and have seen this first hand. It's quite scary.

[tony.o]

I was working the desk on Thanksgiving night, 2002, answered the phone, the female caller asked if patrolmen work a straight 36 hour shift, I said "no". She then named the officer (married) and told me that she has been "Seeing" him for a while and that he has been telling her that he was going to leave his wife for her. She started whining/crying, telling me the whole story. It was entertaining, so I listened a while. She sounded like a middle aged woman who should have known better than to believe the "I'm going to leave my wife (and kids) soon". I didn't know the officer, but I recognized the officers by name, as being on another shift. Right before she hung up she said " tell ---- that I hope he enjoys thanksgiving dinner with the wife and kids".

[lt93lover]

It takes 2 to tango....so that makes which one worse-the man or the woman? That's assuming they both know the circumstances-people will lie to be with someone and say they're not married.
I think you can't single out cops, although it seems to be a stereotype for the profession. My ex is a truck driver, you think they don't fool around? (He never did-that's not why he's my ex).

[Jellybean400]

I want to add that the 'brotherhood' is very adept at protecting it's members.
I also know and have seen this first hand. It's quite scary.

Ohhhhhh, yes.

My ex- was a dispatcher when we got married. However, in his department, that's the starting job before patrolman. He wore the uniform, etc. And its not just the uniform that draws women, its the power and the feeling that this man can take care of them and protect them.

Yes, men and women both cheat, in all professions. But, like Delta said, in my ex-'s department there were maybe TWO guys who didnt cheat on their wives. Out of about 45.

[6233108]

Ohhhhhh, yes.

My ex- was a dispatcher when we got married. However, in his department, that's the starting job before patrolman. He wore the uniform, etc. And its not just the uniform that draws women, its the power and the feeling that this man can take care of them and protect them.

Yes, men and women both cheat, in all professions. But, like Delta said, in my ex-'s department there were maybe TWO guys who didnt cheat on their wives. Out of about 45.

And believe it or not cheating on one side or the other occurs in about 77% of all marriages. You are lucky if you fall into the 23% of non cheating marriages.

[LovnTheFuzz]

And believe it or not cheating on one side or the other occurs in about 77% of all marriages. You are lucky if you fall into the 23% of non cheating marriages.

Only 77%... ? Not as high as i thought.

[TPD Cadet]

So would it be better to become a LEO for a few years THEN get married?

[keith758]

I know a few that have cheated on their wives, but I have to say that I know more that haven't, including me. Unfortunately, the attraction of the uniform seems to be true, and if a person is in a bad marraige, or has little moral integrity, the temtation may be too much. I know of a few guys that are working into their 60s because their wives had enough, took half of their pension, and they have to work longer to build it up again. I can't say that the temptation hasn't been there from time to time, and the opportunity has certainly presented itself, but I'm not about to give up a stable life for a cop groupie.