I purchased this book for my wife the other day. I picked it up last night and ended up reading it from beginning to end. (Only 234 pages-quick read)
The funny thing is, I bought this book for my wife, for her to understand my desire, and how we as a family can prosper. Not to allow our marriage to become a statistic to divorce.
When I finished reading the book, I had a whole new perspective on what I was really asking my wife to do. The feeling of guilt for buying "her" the book, to show her, how to cope with my decision. (that she supports) In all honesty I felt ashamed and felt even more foolish for thinking I knew what a spouse and family will go through, with never being on the job.
The other part I took from the book was the true "SACRIFICE" an Officer makes to protect all of us. Let me explain in a little more detail. I understood the Job I understood the Schedule, I even understood the dangers.
But I never really thought about the loneliness an Officer can feel. Nor did I really thing of the Extra Burden you were asking of your spouse.
The way the officer's are trained to go against natural human emotion, to maintain order. To eliminate any outward emotion at a scene etc.
Bottle it up and maintain order.Then go home and switch into a loving father/mother and spouse
There was on story of an Officer who tried saving an infant from STD (he was to late) he too had a baby at the same age. Without boring you with the whole story it got to a point where the wife noticed black and blues on his side. She asked him what happened, and he admitted to severely pinching himself to get the image of the STD baby out of his head.
(He ended up getting help, and is fine)
This book in my opinion should be a must read for any applicants who wish to Pursue a Career in LE. It was written for spouses, but it has really opened my eyes. Again I know the challenges of LE career, but until you read about different experiences and add in the"Human Element" of the job, In my opinion you will not understand it. This is coming from a 37 year old man who plays softball on a Police League, and 2 of my best friends are on the job.
(As I read this, I remember times where I could see something wrong but never asked, if they were OK)
In closing I have always said I Respected all of you, and Thanked you for what you do for all of us. After reading that book those words now seem too shallow to say. Then again there are No Words that will describe how I feel toward all of you who put on that badge.
Not only do I Thank You, But I would like to thank your Spouses as well!!! They carry a heavy Burden as well for you to Protect all of us.
This as well applies to all of you who Serve Our Country and Your Spouses!
New Applicants please buy the book if your married, prior to applying.
Sorry for the long winded post, but it is a rare day when jcioccke's alterer motive backfires on him lol
The funny thing is, I bought this book for my wife, for her to understand my desire, and how we as a family can prosper. Not to allow our marriage to become a statistic to divorce.
When I finished reading the book, I had a whole new perspective on what I was really asking my wife to do. The feeling of guilt for buying "her" the book, to show her, how to cope with my decision. (that she supports) In all honesty I felt ashamed and felt even more foolish for thinking I knew what a spouse and family will go through, with never being on the job.
The other part I took from the book was the true "SACRIFICE" an Officer makes to protect all of us. Let me explain in a little more detail. I understood the Job I understood the Schedule, I even understood the dangers.
But I never really thought about the loneliness an Officer can feel. Nor did I really thing of the Extra Burden you were asking of your spouse.
The way the officer's are trained to go against natural human emotion, to maintain order. To eliminate any outward emotion at a scene etc.
Bottle it up and maintain order.Then go home and switch into a loving father/mother and spouse
There was on story of an Officer who tried saving an infant from STD (he was to late) he too had a baby at the same age. Without boring you with the whole story it got to a point where the wife noticed black and blues on his side. She asked him what happened, and he admitted to severely pinching himself to get the image of the STD baby out of his head.
(He ended up getting help, and is fine)
This book in my opinion should be a must read for any applicants who wish to Pursue a Career in LE. It was written for spouses, but it has really opened my eyes. Again I know the challenges of LE career, but until you read about different experiences and add in the"Human Element" of the job, In my opinion you will not understand it. This is coming from a 37 year old man who plays softball on a Police League, and 2 of my best friends are on the job.
(As I read this, I remember times where I could see something wrong but never asked, if they were OK)
In closing I have always said I Respected all of you, and Thanked you for what you do for all of us. After reading that book those words now seem too shallow to say. Then again there are No Words that will describe how I feel toward all of you who put on that badge.
Not only do I Thank You, But I would like to thank your Spouses as well!!! They carry a heavy Burden as well for you to Protect all of us.
This as well applies to all of you who Serve Our Country and Your Spouses!
New Applicants please buy the book if your married, prior to applying.
Sorry for the long winded post, but it is a rare day when jcioccke's alterer motive backfires on him lol
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