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  • Smithers
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    Originally posted by Mr. CO View Post
    Ok guys my girlfriend of 8 months is moving into my hometown next week. We have been seeing eachother for the most part every week 2 or 3 days a week. However I am concerned about things and she doesn't seem worried.

    1.) She says she is moving because of a job and then added bonus is me. Which is fine with me. However I am afraid we will see to much for eachother and then start fighting. It's a huge adjustment having someone move into your hometown and possible see them every day. We have never really fault. And I don't want to start fighting. Just because we see eachother.

    2.) We agreed to have supper if possible as I may be out of town for work. We also agreed that we will NOT see eachother every waking moment as it might put a strain on our relationship.

    Do I have a reason to be worried??? What has worked for you???
    I'll reiterate what others have said... you're thinking about it too much. Just go with the flow, and if it feels right, it is. You'll find you may not spend much more time together anyway.

    And to M-11 comments... you sir are a genius. I wish I had you as a teacher before I got married

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  • Scott941
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    Originally posted by M-11 View Post
    1. Hide your Porn.

    2. Go buy a big screen TV Now. and get all the cable you can. It's easier to keep if it was "Always There".

    3. Fill your bathroom with stuff. I don't care if you just buy 200 bars of soap, just do not leave enough room for her to start leaving her stuff in there.

    You will come home one day soon and have new curtians, Potholders, and a small basket of soap shaped like seashells on the back of your toilet.

    Resistance is Futile...

    M-11
    LOL!!! ^^^^^ Now I can't wait for Chiller to weigh in.....

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  • David Hineline
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    I was just up north of Wall, SD last weekend, and I wish I live in SD.

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  • BlackSun23
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    Originally posted by M-11 View Post
    1. Hide your Porn.

    2. Go buy a big screen TV Now. and get all the cable you can. It's easier to keep if it was "Always There".

    3. Fill your bathroom with stuff. I don't care if you just buy 200 bars of soap, just do not leave enough room for her to start leaving her stuff in there.

    You will come home one day soon and have new curtians, Potholders, and a small basket of soap shaped like seashells on the back of your toilet.

    Resistance is Futile...

    M-11
    baaahahahaha

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  • Mr. CO
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    Ok guys thanks for the replies.

    No I don't have another woman on the side. By my daily activities. I like to watch certain shows or search the net. We have talked about this and I have stop worrying about it. Thanks a lot.

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  • Deaton208
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    Hmmm....

    Sounds like to me that if you feel this way, that she is not the lady you will be marrying.... If you can't see each other nearly every day without fighting, is this relationship really for you?

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  • Jellybean400
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    Originally posted by beachcop05 View Post
    Dude you should be ecstatic that she's moving close, my FIANCE lives 2,000 miles away from me, and I miss her every day, and want to be with her. I can't wait until the day when we move closer to each other. If you truly love her you will want to be with her more often. And don't worry about fights, her and I haven't really fought yet either, but i know it's coming, it's a very natural aspect of relationships.

    What are you gonna do when you guys get married?????
    Did he say they were engaged? Or that he was thinking of marrying her?

    I understand where he's coming from. People dont need to be stuck up each others ***'s constantly, it's not healthy. They need their own interests and activities. Believe me, after 15 years in a relationship, you will wish your partner had some hobbies of their own!

    Just keep your own friends and activities, and also do some more things together. Like you said - the happy medium. Then you'll enjoy the times with her even more.

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  • M-11
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    1. Hide your Porn.

    2. Go buy a big screen TV Now. and get all the cable you can. It's easier to keep if it was "Always There".

    3. Fill your bathroom with stuff. I don't care if you just buy 200 bars of soap, just do not leave enough room for her to start leaving her stuff in there.

    You will come home one day soon and have new curtians, Potholders, and a small basket of soap shaped like seashells on the back of your toilet.

    Resistance is Futile...

    M-11

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  • beachcop05
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    Originally posted by Mr. CO View Post
    Ok guys my girlfriend of 8 months is moving into my hometown next week. We have been seeing eachother for the most part every week 2 or 3 days a week. However I am concerned about things and she doesn't seem worried.

    1.) She says she is moving because of a job and then added bonus is me. Which is fine with me. However I am afraid we will see to much for eachother and then start fighting. It's a huge adjustment having someone move into your hometown and possible see them every day. We have never really fault. And I don't want to start fighting. Just because we see eachother.

    2.) We agreed to have supper if possible as I may be out of town for work. We also agreed that we will NOT see eachother every waking moment as it might put a strain on our relationship.

    Do I have a reason to be worried??? What has worked for you???
    Dude you should be ecstatic that she's moving close, my FIANCE lives 2,000 miles away from me, and I miss her every day, and want to be with her. I can't wait until the day when we move closer to each other. If you truly love her you will want to be with her more often. And don't worry about fights, her and I haven't really fought yet either, but i know it's coming, it's a very natural aspect of relationships.

    What are you gonna do when you guys get married?????

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  • Stewie
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    See I'm on the other side of the boat, my SO lives about 6 hours away till she finishes Dental Hygiene School. I cannot wait till she moves back here with me, and you should be happy she's moving in with you if you truly love her.

    Hate to say it but ALL couples fight, if you don't fight then it will be just like a pressure cooker ready to explode into disaster. I think you're worried that she will wreck you're daily routine, but that's natural since change affects everyone differently. Just let things flow and don't sweat the small **** and always enjoy each others company!

    Goodluck!

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  • Athene8107
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    depends on what you mean by "do my own thing"

    Originally posted by Mr. CO View Post
    Britt, we love eachother. But we don't want to all of sudden be around eachother every waking moment. I want to be able too still do my own thing however spend time with her too. We just have to find a happy medium in the middle.
    Perhaps I am reading way too much into this situation, but like others have mentioned this fear sounds very odd. You should be just fine so long as the following two things are not in play:

    1. You already feel she is too needy and/or clingy.

    2. By "doing my own thing" you mean you have someone on the side (another girl).

    Even people who live together do not spend every waking/sleeping hour together. You both probably have careers to concentrate on and other friends to hang out with, right?
    Last edited by Athene8107; 09-13-2008, 04:58 PM. Reason: proofreading error

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  • Ninja Styx
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    Originally posted by Mr. CO View Post
    Britt, we love eachother. But we don't want to all of sudden be around eachother every waking moment. I want to be able too still do my own thing however spend time with her too. We just have to find a happy medium in the middle.

    As I said before...you are thinking about it too much. Even married couples have to find a happy medium...I have friends whose wives wont do anything without them. ugh
    I love my husband and he loves me, but we have maintained our individuality and try not to smother each other. I enjoy my space...he enjoys his and I dont have a problem with that. We also love doing things together....he will even tell me when he wants to "hang out" with me if we get too busy. We respect one another and each others differences. Thats key to a relationship...respecting each others personal space and time.

    Dont have a date schedule or anything because that is highly unromantic....dont even talk about it because then ya'll will be doing the "oh are we going by the agreement." Just enjoy time together and time apart.....it will all fit into place. If its getting to be too much ...then talk about it.

    In short:

    STOP THINKING ABOUT IT!

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  • FireCop86
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    Originally posted by David Hineline View Post
    You are at the point of the relationship now where you should be at 30yrs of marriage, where you live downstairs and she lives upstairs and you take separate vacations.

    This is quite odd.
    yes very odd indeed...

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  • BrittBSC
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    Originally posted by Mr. CO View Post
    Britt, we love eachother. But we don't want to all of sudden be around eachother every waking moment. I want to be able too still do my own thing however spend time with her too. We just have to find a happy medium in the middle.
    I think the last line of your post just answered your question! I hope you didn't take my post wrong, I respect that you are trying to do what you think is right in your relationship. You will know what is right for you and your relationship. If you ease into everything I think you will be okay. Like i said in my other post, just make plans to do your own things with your own people.... BUT you are going to have to deal with the fact that she is new in your town and may not have friends of her own. That alone will lead to y'all spending more time together until she develops her own friendships and her own things to do.

    As for my previous post, I think you should know/take into consideration that I am a single mother of 2 kids, so my dating "style" is probably quite different than others.. that's why I said I may be completely wrong in my response.

    Good luck, hun!

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  • deputy x 2
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    glad I made you laugh!!

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