Bad relation with parents who are trying to ruin my background check. Am I doomed?

[Aidokea]

L-1 is probably the smartest guy here. Refer to his Don Quixote comment above.

The psych is going to be your biggest challenge. I don't see you getting past it.

[L-1]

I appreciate you Don Quixote like sense of mission. Please let us know when you reach El Toboso.

[Doctorhoot]

Well then you’ll be in for a surprise, Aidokea. There is absolutely nothing in my background packet that is bad other than probably a few quotes from my folks which probably won’t even be taken seriously at this point. Already passed my poly too. And have great relationships with some of the employees at the department who had far worse backgrounds than I did prior to hire ( dui, crappy credit, smoked weed before )

It is not my fault you are trying to have a self fullfilling prophecy about me. I guess according to you guys that would be called a persecution complex, right? Lol, whatever.

Now please go ahead and pick apart what I just said and come to your own conclusion. I’ll be here.

[Doctorhoot]

With all due respect sir, I have to disagree with you too. Because I am a big fan of what you contribute to this forum, I will try to be as polite and respectful in my response back to you.

I will firstly say that I really do not appreciate my accountability and truthfulness being called into question. For the 4th ( maybe 5th time at this point ) I have put my story out there open to judgment. There was absolutely nothing I said that could be construed as my lying. That is really just you guys just giving the newer guys a hard time, and you know that too.

To answer your question though - yeah, they have been doing that my whole life but I also said that things have been rather chill the last couple of years. I DID NOT expect them to do what they are doing. Sorry, but I’ll tell you the same thing I told tanksoldier, not everyone is as smart as you. If you’re going to pick apart a story and come to your own conclusion, pretty much anything anyone says can be construed as deceitful.

To the guys saying that I am going to have trouble in the academy. All I could do is laugh. I should have also known before coming to this forum that most of you guys are super grumpy and salty and just looking to call BS on everything.

And thank you for suggesting that I move onto another career path. I’m definitely not going to because again, I didn’t lie lol. Maybe stop trying to push people away from being Law enforcement officer because someone doesn’t have a good relation with their family. You guys read way too deeply into things. Sometime it is just as simple as my title.

Thanks for reading.

[Aidokea]

Not much of what you're giving us seems to make sense:

Yup.

OP, you're setting off the "Scooby Sense" of numerous officers and retired officers here, that survive and have survived by our ability to quickly and accurately size up people and situations.

I've never seen anyone like you get hired.

[L-1]

My folks haven't been the easiest people to deal with my whole life and have often tried to sabotage things that I have going on. Anything ranging from employment to my own personal relationships and friendships.

So I did not know they were going to do this. I SHOULD have known but I didn’t. They seemed happy at first to know I am pursuing a career in Law enforcement but as soon as they found out they had a chance to gain power over me, they took it.

OK, so which is it - They've been doing this to you your whole life, or they just sprung this on you when you came back into town?

One of the first thing you will learn in law enforcement is - Words Mean Things. You can't say something one day and then totally contract yourself the next day. It calls your credibility into questions and creates the appearance that you are a dishonest person who will say whatever you need to in order to achieve your goals. Such persons are called Brady Officers because they have established they have no credibility on the witness stand. Prosecutors routinely refuse to handles any cases when they are the arresting officer or a witness because their credibility is all to easily attacked in court. Departments routinely fire Brady officers because they cannot serve as witnesses.

Look up the term "Brady Officer". You have just become one before you are even hired and with your inability to keep your story straight, will most likely be a DQ on the background.

Time to move on to another career path.

[Aidokea]

Tanksoldier is bestowing an awful lot of wisdom upon you,and he's doing it for free. Everything he said is spot on.

[Aidokea]

Yeah. If he made it as far as academy, I would forsee an awful lot of extra push-ups in his future...

[Iowa #1603]

I ended up reaching out to my B.I. and explained to him to just be aware that they are doing this. He told me that he understands and he may or may not at this point go and meet them but he will still have to send them a questionnaire about me. He also says that because I haven't lived at home in so long, he probably won't take what they say seriously.

Your BI has already answered the question you were worried about.

All the rest of this thread has been YOU trying to get us to agree with you being dissed by your parents

[CCCSD]

If his parents can get him this worked up imagine what a thug on the street could have him believing?

Or in the Academy…

[NolaT]

As always,......good luck.

[Doctorhoot]

Real good point. Probably shouldn’t of told them my future career moves although they’ve known for some time that I’ve wanted to do this. Was just a matter of when. Definitely learned my lesson here. Thank you for your reply.

[tanksoldier]

Well, thanks for proving my point.

You offered no correction, you offered an accusation…. Now I’m the bad guy.

Even if I do think everyone is a liar, that has no bearing on whether you’re lying.

…and I’m being mean to visitors now, too. Classic distraction tactic.

Some advice: when you’re in a hole stop digging.

[NolaT]

You were under no obligation to stay with or discuss the application with them.

I would have discussed the relationship you have with them, with your BI, advised him that you haven't seen them in two years, the interview with them may possible be in a negative light, and drop it.

The BI wil take it from there, and if necessary talk to as many neighbors to gain additional info about you, your parents and the relationship between the three of you.

BI's have heard it all before, and can investigate and pull the truth out.

[westside popo]

If his parents can get him this worked up imagine what a thug on the street could have him believing?