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  • wirefire2
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    Originally posted by Smurfette_76 View Post
    Chin up, tits out...go do it.
    You are such a cop....

    Originally posted by marty33 View Post
    Everyone has emotions, and police are human too. But crying in the bright, comfortable, sterile environment of an oral board? I think thats a little much and an indicator of some type of emotional instability.

    If the oral board moved you to tears, you will be bawling every day on the street.

    And to add my two cents, I damn near cried at an oral board for the Nebraska State Patrol when I had to talk about a fellow deputy that I worked with who was murdered in the line of duty.

    So I agree with Smurfette, STFU. Crying is an indicator of humanity not weakness.

    Oh and by the way, I passed that board too.
    Last edited by wirefire2; 11-06-2009, 07:17 PM.

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  • Bushido2278
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    Originally posted by Smurfette_76 View Post
    Crying is NO indication you can't keep it together...it's often an indication that you're freaking human.
    X2.

    Someonelkme....if they DQ you for that, I'd suggest looking at a different agency. Perhaps one that wants PEOPLE in their uniform....

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  • PhilipCal
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    To the OP. The best advice you've gotten concerning your question has come from Smurfette. That fact doesn't surprise me one bit. My suggestion to you is, to read, and then re-read Smurf's replies. Advice, especially as it applies to your question(s), won't get any better. Best of luck to you.

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  • Smurfette_76
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    Originally posted by marty33 View Post
    Everyone has emotions, and police are human too. But crying in the bright, comfortable, sterile environment of an oral board? I think thats a little much and an indicator of some type of emotional instability.
    And what is YOUR education and training that allows you to make such a statement. You want to know what made me tear up on my oral board? Talking about the dead two year old baby I pulled out of an old pool in someone's backyard...the pool wasn't even filled with water, it was filled with rain and p*ss from the parties her parents had very night. Did it move me? You're damn right it did...does it still? Yeah. Emotional unstable. Not on your life.

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  • Someonelkme
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    Thank you for all of your responses and support.

    I would like to state, however, I will not cry on the street. It's a totally different situation. Having my heart and soul into a job, and having impartial, unknown people be the definitive line between my getting it and not, is a helpless feeling. I'm not helpless on the street. I have some control over the situation.

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  • marty33
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    Everyone has emotions, and police are human too. But crying in the bright, comfortable, sterile environment of an oral board? I think thats a little much and an indicator of some type of emotional instability.

    No one should bottle up their emotions, and Lord knows there will be times when you feel like crying. You have to be able to maintain your professionalism at the scene, in public, with victims or with offenders. This means keeping your emotions in check while you have a job to do.

    If the oral board moved you to tears, you will be bawling every day on the street.

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  • SleepyCop
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    Originally posted by Blue Breed View Post
    Crying? Well I have to say that I would be one saying not to let you move forward. If an oral interview gets you emotional to the point you cry then how do you expect to handle yourself and situations on the road? You are going to see tragedy when you get into this field. Whether it be a bad car accident or having to go notify someone of a death. How do you expect to handle yourself when it involves crimes against children? How do you expect to handle situations when you yourself cant keep it together?
    Ya, we don't cry because we're so tough, nothing can hurt us!

    Seriously, anyone who says that they've never cried after something ****ed up is full of it. I've done it before, and I'm no less of a cop, or a man. If you try and bottle your emotions up all the time with this job, you're going to either eat a gun, or drink yourself to death.

    And people wonder why our suicide rates are so high...

    -SC

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  • just joe
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    "You've been through boot camp, you can handle this. Chin up, tits out...go do it."

    I love that line.

    I can't tell you what I do because I've never really had a problem with it. Some will view it as a sign of weakness, some will view it as basic human compassion. If you do your job and do it well, it gives other people a lot less room to talk smack about you.

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  • KapsFB
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    Originally posted by Smurfette_76 View Post
    Oh, step off with that BS, blue breed. You cried, someone, that's it. I'm not going to ask what got you choked up because its irrelevant. I'm a woman that when I'm furious, I get tears in my eyes...no, I'm not crying but I know it looks like that. I got teary eyed on my oral when a specific subject came up. I've cried on scenes, I've cried with victims, I've cried with families on death notifications. Crying is NO indication you can't keep it together...it's often an indication that you're freaking human.

    You've been through boot camp, you can handle this. Chin up, tits out...go do it.
    Someonelkme, much emphasis on the last bit of advice

    Seriously though, very well said.

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  • Smurfette_76
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    Oh, step off with that BS, blue breed. You cried, someone, that's it. I'm not going to ask what got you choked up because its irrelevant. I'm a woman that when I'm furious, I get tears in my eyes...no, I'm not crying but I know it looks like that. I got teary eyed on my oral when a specific subject came up. I've cried on scenes, I've cried with victims, I've cried with families on death notifications. Crying is NO indication you can't keep it together...it's often an indication that you're freaking human.

    You've been through boot camp, you can handle this. Chin up, tits out...go do it.

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  • Blue Breed
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    Crying? Well I have to say that I would be one saying not to let you move forward. If an oral interview gets you emotional to the point you cry then how do you expect to handle yourself and situations on the road? You are going to see tragedy when you get into this field. Whether it be a bad car accident or having to go notify someone of a death. How do you expect to handle yourself when it involves crimes against children? How do you expect to handle situations when you yourself cant keep it together?

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  • Someonelkme
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    Too old to cry at it. If i get the green light on the poly then all that's left is the psych.

    Thank you for all your suggestions. I will keep them-and keep trying.

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  • Presence 1*
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    How old are you?

    I understand getting so involved with something that it makes you choke up, I've been there before. The trick is to realize when it starts to happen, and to make it stop happening. Take a deep breath, look up to the sky - it helps to stop the tears from forming. I'm not sure why.

    Try to pinpoint situations that make you do this. You should try to train yourself to respond differently. Smiling helps too.

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  • Someonelkme
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    Thank you. It's hard to put that perspective into it when it's all the stuff you've worked for, and these people have the power to turn you away.

    I am on pins and needles after the poly. He said he didn't note any panic or huge deception, but he also didn't say I passed.

    O.o

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  • mikeymedic
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    What I do to check emotions is this. Everyone's words and opinions are just that...words. If I encounter something on the street that may be emotional then I just tell myself that the situation is not mine and/or not real. I haven't cried since I was 2 so I have trouble understanding people when they do cry. My wife does it to and I never can understand why some people (not just women) cry at random times.

    Good luck on the Poly, answer your questions, there will be no surprise questions, they will usually break them up into 2 control questions, and then 4 questions from your background before you can rest. You will sometimes do the same questions twice at 2 different times usually after the first or second rest period.

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