Age of Consent - North Carolina

[AlphaFoxtrot]

Okay, so I am dating this girl who is 16. I am 18. We have not done any sexual acts yet, because I wanted to clarify what I know.

According to NC Statute 14-27, "The age of consent in North Carolina in general is 16".

So assuming my positioning, she is 16 and I am 18 as I said before. She will be 17 in 3 months. Will sexual acts between us be deemed legal, considering my understanding of this NC Statute?

I wanted to be responsible and clarify.

[SgtCHP]

So, you want to be responsible? How about waiting until the two of you are married before you become sexually active with one-another? That would be the responsible thing to do!

Just cool it, man! You have a full, long life to experience before you make a mistake and have children that you cannot afford at your young, tender age.

Just because God created those strong desires does not mean that you have to go out a sow your seed before you have a responsible, income producing job that will allow your heart to be at ease and your mind to function with adult thoughts.

[Hoosier_Boy]

The young man is probably already sexually active, he doesn't need to be lectured. No disrespect Sarge, the guy just wants a legal answer.

[10-31Mike]

She might consent friday night.

And she might decide she got raped when her daddy finds out. Since he'll probably kill you I doubt a criminal charge will matter.

And in 10 years when you're taking a polygraph for that job you might want they WILL ask you about anything you've ever done with anyone under 18. Good luck explaining the age of consent to them.

Stick to porn or find a woman over 30 (trust me on this).

[Narco]

Alpha,
Reading the statute it looks like you're alright. Don't construe this as legal advice as I can only offer that for GA related questions. If you wanna be 100% certain post your question in the NC forums or ask one of the local PD guys where you live.

Give the guy some credit for asking...most kids nowadays just go for it.

[nuthead]

Give the guy some credit for asking...most kids nowadays just go for it.

Maybe I'm just cynical, but he probably already has and is just worried if he can get in trouble.

And +1 to whoever said she might change her mind....it wouldn't be the first time.

And +1 million to the "woman over 30" - You know what they said about older women:
Don't tell, don't swell and grateful as hell.

[Smurfette_76]

She's legal in NC...the boy won't have to admit to anything in a polygraph...her daddy is another matter.

[vacop4274]

Ah the elusive cougar!!!!! Been hunting that one for a while!!!!

[AlphaFoxtrot]

So, let me clear some things up. I appreciate all of the responses to the issue but seem to have conflicting thoughts here.

First, I have not done anything yet, I guarantee that. If I already did it, I wouldnt be placing so much emphasis because I know I would have did it and can't take it back, therefore I wouldnt even bother looking for advice on here.

Second, the way I see it, yes, her dad could always try something. Legally speaking (as I understand it) he can't...she is at the age of consent.

Third, as with any new relationship, anyone can consent one night and claim rape the next night. Just because we're 18 and 16, doesn't make it different. A 23 year old girl could be dating a 25 year old, and claim rape, even though they both origionally consented and now she wants to change things and falsly accuse him.

Honestly, I see no legal issues here. I've heard of worse, I've heard of 19 year old men dating and having sexual relations with a 15 year old...that is a lot more different than this girl and I. The girl I am dating is 1.5 years younger than me, not 4.

Again.....I haven't done anything yet. I wouldnt bother wasting my time being on here if I did, I would have just gone to yahoo answers. I was looking for the advice from people I can trust, I would appreciate a serious approach to my question. I'm not lying to any of you, everything I've said is true.

[10-31Mike]

...the boy won't have to admit to anything in a polygraph....

I don't know. Depends on who's giving it. The few I took all had a question like: "Since you were 18 have you ever had (sexual contact, relations, something like that) with anyone under 18"

I think anyway. It's been a while. But it would sure suck (no pun intended) if it came back and messed you up when you were 40 and trying to get that top secret clearance for a job you don't even know you want yet.


Don't smoke weed either.

[10-31Mike]

Again.....I haven't done anything yet. I wouldnt bother wasting my time being on here if I did, I would have just gone to yahoo answers. I was looking for the advice from people I can trust, I would appreciate a serious approach to my question. I'm not lying to any of you, everything I've said is true.

Hey, if Smurfette says it's ok you're probably safe. (you can subpeonea her if it doesn't work out) We're just trying to smack some sense into you based on our experience.

Dear god just don't make any babies till you're at least 30.

[M-11]

Dude, you are doing it all wrong.

You need to be dating 23-25 year olds at your age. They can Buy Beer (You cant have any, but I'm just sayin)

They have a nicer Car than you.

They have their own place,

They are more likely to get sick of you after a while, meaning, they break it off and you move on looking like the good guy.

When you are 25 or so, you lower your age back to 21 year olds, and you date two 18 year olds when you hit your midlife crisis.

M-11

[Smurfette_76]

I don't know. Depends on who's giving it. The few I took all had a question like: "Since you were 18 have you ever had (sexual contact, relations, something like that) with anyone under 18"

I think anyway. It's been a while. But it would sure suck (no pun intended) if it came back and messed you up when you were 40 and trying to get that top secret clearance for a job you don't even know you want yet.

It's not illegal in this state to have sex when you're 16.

I answered the boys questions...y'all are attempting to give moral advice...it's like spitting in the wind at that age.

[nuthead]

It's not illegal in this state to have sex when you're 16.

It's the same south of the border.

I answered the boys questions...y'all are attempting to give moral advice...it's like spitting in the wind at that age.

Ah, those were the days, my friend!

[SgtCHP]

The young man is probably already sexually active, he doesn't need to be lectured. No disrespect Sarge, the guy just wants a legal answer.

And, if he applies my logic, he need not seek out "legal answers!"