I think I have really messed up where my son is concerned. Granted, not one of you know me, but a little background...
I am a single parent, son is 22 and a commerical pilot by education, daughter is 17 and a senior in HS this year. Both have been and are straight A students, daughter is a varsity cheerleader, so I think I have done really well being a single parent.
My son just received a call from a US Marshall Deputy in our vicintity who had heard about him and wants him to apply in their air wing division. He also gave my son the names and numbers of other agencies this Marhsal has contacted...SS, Customs, DEA, FBI
PROBLEM: Although I have done extremely well with both of my children, in my opinion...
I got arrested, first offense,( and ONLY offense) on January 30th of this year. It was the stupidest thing I have ever done in my life, not to mention, I will beat myself up forever on this one, nobody to blame but myself.
My girlfriend had broken her foot with a slip on the ice. Her husband, being the President of a bowling league in the county to the north of me, called and begged me to fill in. Keep in mind, I am NOT a bowler, they just needed another person to round out their team as it was tournaments.
Well, suffice it to say, I went. First mistake. They had pitchers and I had a small glass, but very honestly, I am not a huge person. I am 5'8" and 135 pounds and seldom a drinker. I was there for 4 hours. Glass was never empty. I got arrested on my way home at 2200. I tested .164 and had to spend 12 hours in jail. Officer asked how much, I replied * I honestly do not know*, I am not a liar.
I have never in my life been so humiliated, ashamed, nor embarrassed in my entire life. I have never even received a speeding ticket, not had an accident.
I just went to court Monday (August 1) for the 2nd time and for the 2nd time, it was continued, this time until October 31st. Keep in mind please, this happened January 30th. There are inconsistencies in the officers report, but as I said, I have nobody to blame but myself. I was very cooperative as I hold the utmost respect for any law enforcement personnel. I am dating a detective, sometimes
At any rate, my daughter is aware of what happened as she lives with me, my son is not aware of it as he has his own place. I am very, very close with both of my children. I do not know what to do.
I am so proud of my son and my daughter because of their accomplishments, yet so ashamed of myself. The Prosecutor, even with a first offense, wants me to seve 30 days! What? My children, regardless of age (expecially my daughter at home) have NEVER been latchkey children, and I do not care their age, they will never be, as I am always homein the evenings, weekdays and weekends. They are to the age, they are either in school or working. I do NOT go to bars, have a couple beers maybe once a year, and that is all. Yes, probably due to the BAC, I am screwed.
What do you recommend? Do I tell my son and have him hate me for life, or do I go along with all of his background and interviews, be honest about what happened and have him find out later?
I am so incredibly ashamed of myself. What happened was not me at all. I made a huge mistake and I will pay for that. I messed up, bad!
Did I mess up my son's chances also? I truly am a good person, just not feeling that way right now.
Lauri
PS: Strawberry's post was a complete shame, she needs to find a street corner, she'll find all kinds of officers then and I can be pretty sure, they will be the arresting sort, just my not so humble opinion, sorry!
L
I am a single parent, son is 22 and a commerical pilot by education, daughter is 17 and a senior in HS this year. Both have been and are straight A students, daughter is a varsity cheerleader, so I think I have done really well being a single parent.
My son just received a call from a US Marshall Deputy in our vicintity who had heard about him and wants him to apply in their air wing division. He also gave my son the names and numbers of other agencies this Marhsal has contacted...SS, Customs, DEA, FBI
PROBLEM: Although I have done extremely well with both of my children, in my opinion...
I got arrested, first offense,( and ONLY offense) on January 30th of this year. It was the stupidest thing I have ever done in my life, not to mention, I will beat myself up forever on this one, nobody to blame but myself.
My girlfriend had broken her foot with a slip on the ice. Her husband, being the President of a bowling league in the county to the north of me, called and begged me to fill in. Keep in mind, I am NOT a bowler, they just needed another person to round out their team as it was tournaments.
Well, suffice it to say, I went. First mistake. They had pitchers and I had a small glass, but very honestly, I am not a huge person. I am 5'8" and 135 pounds and seldom a drinker. I was there for 4 hours. Glass was never empty. I got arrested on my way home at 2200. I tested .164 and had to spend 12 hours in jail. Officer asked how much, I replied * I honestly do not know*, I am not a liar.
I have never in my life been so humiliated, ashamed, nor embarrassed in my entire life. I have never even received a speeding ticket, not had an accident.
I just went to court Monday (August 1) for the 2nd time and for the 2nd time, it was continued, this time until October 31st. Keep in mind please, this happened January 30th. There are inconsistencies in the officers report, but as I said, I have nobody to blame but myself. I was very cooperative as I hold the utmost respect for any law enforcement personnel. I am dating a detective, sometimes
At any rate, my daughter is aware of what happened as she lives with me, my son is not aware of it as he has his own place. I am very, very close with both of my children. I do not know what to do.
I am so proud of my son and my daughter because of their accomplishments, yet so ashamed of myself. The Prosecutor, even with a first offense, wants me to seve 30 days! What? My children, regardless of age (expecially my daughter at home) have NEVER been latchkey children, and I do not care their age, they will never be, as I am always homein the evenings, weekdays and weekends. They are to the age, they are either in school or working. I do NOT go to bars, have a couple beers maybe once a year, and that is all. Yes, probably due to the BAC, I am screwed.
What do you recommend? Do I tell my son and have him hate me for life, or do I go along with all of his background and interviews, be honest about what happened and have him find out later?
I am so incredibly ashamed of myself. What happened was not me at all. I made a huge mistake and I will pay for that. I messed up, bad!
Did I mess up my son's chances also? I truly am a good person, just not feeling that way right now.
Lauri
PS: Strawberry's post was a complete shame, she needs to find a street corner, she'll find all kinds of officers then and I can be pretty sure, they will be the arresting sort, just my not so humble opinion, sorry!
L
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