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  • Going to a fallen LEO's funeral?

    I was wondering if it is appropriate for the general public or someone not personally knowing the LEO to pay their respects at his or her funeral? Thank you.
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    For six years of my 30, I helped arrange LAPD funerals - including line-of-duty.

    These are public events, but be warned, you will need to arrive early and be prepared to stay late at the cemetary. Same for church services, but you will likely not be able to do both.

    Once the funeral procession of black and whites arrive, public parking will be at a minimum. You may not get close to the service due to formations of officers.

    Follow the directions of officers assigned to parking detail and placement of graveside mourners. Dress appropriately, of course.
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    • #3
      Attendance at a funeral is usally out of respect and love for the deceased, so seeing the general public turn out for an officer's service is very touching and appreciated.

      I have two personal stories along that line.

      The funeral procession for SWAT Officer Simmons passed through my patrol area. The turn out of the general public to view his procession to the cemetery was amazing and brought a tear to my eye (okay I'll be honest I cried).

      The other was a funeral for Ofc. Dallies from Garden Grove P.D. My best friend from the Marine Corps was raised in the O.C. He had been stopped by Ofc. Dallies for a minor traffic violation. Ofc. Dallies made such a positive impression on my buddy as a professional cop he asked me if I would take him to the funeral. I was more than happy to help him out. We attended the funeral together, me in my LASD Class A's and my buddy in his Dress Blues.
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      • #4
        Yes, it's appropriate. It's also fine to wear your uniform WITH mourning badge.
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        • #5
          Lots of public turns out for these. As mentioned before just be aware it will be very crowded and lots of things going on

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          • #6
            The more people that attend, just show the appreciation that the public has and it is very much appreciated. The area I work, you can hear motorists yelling "I gotta wait in traffic for this crap!" I have thick skin and can handle a lot, but this makes me want to, well you know, take care of business on a deserving lowlife. If I get the chance, I do get the tag number though, in case we meet again, when I'm calm using the pen is mightier than the sword mentality.
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            • #7
              The coolest thing I ever saw, was a man and his little boy standi ng on the side of the road as we all drove past, still miles from the cemetery.

              They stopped and the man kneeled down and you could see him explaining what what going on and then, they stood still together holding hands and matching John Deer ball caps held over their hearts; from the hearse, until we all had passed by - must have been a full ten minutes.

              The perfect respect paid by a non-officer - stayed clear but still managed to be there in their way. Very moving.
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              • #8
                Thanks for the response guys. I've always wanted to pay my respects but didn't want to be there if it wasn't appropriate. Thank you for all the information.
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                • #9
                  I went to the funeral of a Chicago P.D.'s officer after he was murdered in the line of duty. Went in uniform. Chicago P.D. was exceedingly generous to myself and the Sheriff. They made us feel welcome and were very appreciative.
                  Their pipes and drums came down for a funeral to help us out when one of our deputies was murdered in the line of duty.
                  It is very typical for other department personnel to show up to funerals. As Keith noted it will be a long day. A considerable amount of people had to wait outside the church during the services simply because there was not even close to enough room.
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                  • #10
                    Please do attend if you feel you want to. In our area the PD and the Fire Dept / EMS always have great turn outs to pay respect for one another.
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                    • #11
                      If you would like to attend by all means do. It is an experience which luckily is not seen very often. The support by fellow law enforcement and family is amazing but when the public joins it gives that extra boost of support.

                      The biggest funeral I attended was amazing and support streamed in from all areas and groups in the metro. The procession had to be 4+ miles long and ran along a tollroad. As we proceeded down the freeway most of the drivers exited their cars and covered their hearts. As did many people on the over passes.

                      It was very touching and in a way conveyed a stronger message than from an officer's presense. Someone outside of our "family" found it important enough to show that kind of respect... thus the support seemed that much stronger.

                      Just follow the advice of others as previously posted.
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                      • #12
                        Dont be afraid to cry, because you will if it is your first.

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by jb5722


                          if you've never been to one before, be prepared for a similar scene.
                          Just wondering-if all these cops are at the funeral..whose watching the city?
                          and no I'm not kidding, I'm serious.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by 355339 View Post
                            The more people that attend, just show the appreciation that the public has and it is very much appreciated. The area I work, you can hear motorists yelling "I gotta wait in traffic for this crap!" I have thick skin and can handle a lot, but this makes me want to, well you know, take care of business on a deserving lowlife. If I get the chance, I do get the tag number though, in case we meet again, when I'm calm using the pen is mightier than the sword mentality.
                            I feel your pain. When I was in the motorcade for our fallen Sergeant, we'd get so many people honking their horns or trying to cut around the actual motorcade it was ****ing me off to no end. Wait 5 minutes out of your life and let us honor a great man...

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                            • #15
                              I have been to about 20 police funerals during my career, every one was during my off duty hours on my own time, as were most of the officers in attendance. The patrol car used was always one not in service for the day.
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